Learning not to cum?

Practice when you are allowed to.

Concentration on her needs.

And there are various creams you can use, covered by at least one condom so that the cream does not inhibit her enjoyment.

If she is a kind and understanding woman she will help you learn to serve her better.

 

A light application of Oragel or similar tooth pain gel around the head of your penis will give you more ability to hold on. Cover your penis with a Durex Prolong Condom and you will struggle to cum even working hard to make it happen. You still need to pay attention but you'll have a hard time getting there.

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I love when my wife permits this because I can work hard to cum and think of myself as her private dildo. It is possible to get too excited (for me) and have to take a break. Getting locked back up is both excruciating and thrilling after one of these sessions.

 

Tantra breathing exercises

 

And energy circulation

 

I can't tell you how to learn it after being locked. But when I was young I read all I could about controlling orgasms. I felt learning to last as long as I could would make me a better lover.

That said, the advice above was part of what I used to learn to control my orgasms. It's not easy and it takes practice. Don't be afraid to fail and to try different things.

It takes time to get good at things but you can do it. Just keep trying.

So start with Tantra, breathing and focusing on other things. From there build on what you learn.

 

Slowing down and rhythm helps me a lot. Sometimes I can slowly ramp it up to a hard fucking when she wants it, other times it’s just is not going to happen and she enjoys my torment in those times.

 

This happens to husband after he's been locked up, too. He's young enough, though, he gets hard again pretty quick. Sometimes, he just stays hard.

Even though he gets hard again real fast, I'll usually have him ejaculate into my vagina once I've unlocked him , then eat his creampie and bring me to a few orgasms. After that, we continue until we're finished.

I suppose I'm going to have to try some of the suggestions here when he gets older and it doesn't get as hard so fast anymore..

 

Not cumming was far easier when I was edging regularly. back then, I was more wired to cum by hand, and I was very practised at squeezing the pc muscle to prevent orgasm/ejaculation. You can manage to hold back if you really, really work on squeezing the pc muscle, which is what we use to stop peeing. Takes a fair bit of time to build it up.

The more chastity, the more difficult it got though. My wife likes a slower pace, so that wasn't as difficult. My keyholder, who is very sadistic, liked making me struggle not to cum. She isn't really into piv sex, but she found it amusing to see me struggle, because I'd gotten to the point where I don't like cumming, and I hate disappointing her. In the end, she decided no more piv for me, and my wife agreed that the strap-on was the better option, and agreed that going fully chaste was the better option for me. I think she'd occasionally like piv, but is aware that my desire is to commit to being chaste, and that it doesn't work reliably anymore. Also, if I've gone a month or more without emptying the system so to speak, the mess would be terrible.

 

As already mentioned, rhythm and breathing are the best way to control yourself. Sometimes you have to try to mentally remove yourself from the moment, so you’re you’re not in your partner, you’re not in your body, you’re thinking of something else and the thrust into her body is just like blinking or breathing, you do it without thinking. I can go weeks with daily piv if I’m just careful not to enjoy it too much.

 

think about Theresa May. That would do it for me.

 

It takes some practice.

 

I think our KH enjoy seeing us struggle like that, at least mine does. Her disappointment gives me cucky angst.