What to call my submissive?

Have you read this thread?

 

We are a little stuck on this also. I call my wife “my love” but we have not found something for me yet.

 

No real 'pet' names relating to chastity but I always respond to her orders with Ma'am

 

I think it all depends on what dynamic your both looking for.

From what I can tell it seems you are more comfortable with a less extreme Mistress/Sub dynamic.

My dear, is probably one of the most vanilla and affectionate references you could use. Him being your dearest is a sign of how much you treasure him.
Terms like sweetheart may also fit the dynamic if he has a loving caring soul.

Pet can also be a good one depending on how you interpret the meaning. Pets are loyal, like a dog and can share a deep connection with its owner. They live under the boundries they have been set but can also be mischievous like a cat.

If he is strong and loyal maybe something like stallion would work. Horse riders can also be known to have a deep connection with there horses.

Hopefully these suggestions help give you some ideas to help you find something which fits.

 

From the age of 30 to 60, i referred to my Wife as Madam. She felt it brought more gravitas to our D/s relationship. i was either slave or boy, this was to cement my position in Her hierarchy and used to play mindgames that She really enjoyed.

 

My kh called me her maid the other day. We’re also relatively new to this lifestyle but I rather liked it. We’re also still trying to figure out what she should be called. I’ve been referring to her as ma’am as well. Can’t go wrong there.

 

This is what we chose as well in the end after trying out most of the usual Mistress Goddess etc, my wife likes the boy name as it also is used as another term for waiter in french and she likes to use it to summon up another drink etc especially when we are over in France in public.

 

When we are at home alone my wife calls me by my girl name. She likes Mistress and that is usually what I call her.

 

Hey I was the guy that made that thread in the first reply. It's been awhile and I think we've settled into her referring to me by the same nickname she gave me when we met. No chastity/FLR related nickname. I don't really think not having a special name necessarily takes away from it. Although since you want stories about how names came to be you may be interested in how Kitt came to be referred to as Boss Queen.

My friends and I had regularly been saying stuff like "you got it, chief" or "you got it, boss," and she kept reacting to being called boss. A few times I joked about how she's gotta become the queen at her work, to which she equally reacted to. I decided to combine the two for a joke. And as we went into a relationship with chastity in mind, she went from being "the boss queen" teasingly to being "my boss queen," and accepting it.

 

Our first date was at a munch 18 years ago and from the first day She called me boi paul except when dressing then its christine

 

A friend of Are who knows about our lifestyle said to Miss Shelly awhile ago. “How’s your House Bitch today “ the name has sort of stuck so I’ve been a House Bitch for a while now.

 

From an old Paul Simon song:
“If you'll be my bodyguard
I can be your long lost pal
I can call you Betty
And Betty when you call me
You can call me Al”.

There you go. You can be Betty and he can be Al.

 

A name that was a one-time might have been a male name, but now is strictly feminine, denoting the lack of male capacity. The most famous example might be "madison" in the movie 'Splash.' blue to pink names: https://nameberry.com/blog/unisex-baby-names-names-that-morphed-from-blue-to-pink

 

she calls me her little one I stand 6 3

 

"denoting the lack of male capacity." What a perfect phrase to describe our predicament as locked, chaste males. i showed the post to my Wife/KH and She got a good chuckle.

 

When I discovered male chastity devices actually existed quite a few years ago I was intrigued to try one on my sub husband. After getting one and have him wear it I noticed one day he was not filling his cage like he used to. I said to him it looks quite weenie now my love. No good at all to anyone.
So his official name is Mr Teenie Weenie. But my girlfriends and myself openly call him "Weenie"
They got to know one night when I was a little drunk in out local pub waving my little finger at him. They asked what was all that about, and I told them.
Even told them I had him in a very "Weenie" cage. Just to add we all had a good laugh at him. It really was so funny to see him being laughed at by 4 of my friends.

 

Great

 

Miss Shelly has just gotten a new name for me. She’s been thinking about this for awhile, what can she call me at home and in public that fits.

She started calling me “Her Golden Boy “

It started because of a golden lace thong I wore during her massage, in public she likes it because it refers to how I treat her, even if I’m not wearing the thong.

 

Being married to my KH I call her my Goddess or my lady. I like my lady better also. But as long as there is respect when he address you. Any name should work . As far as him? All I can say is my wife calls me by her pet name she gave long before our FLM. Good luck with the name .

 

Ma'am,

With respect, what you call your submissive is a deeply personal choice. I am involved in BDSM where certain words, symbols, and items can have deep meanings.

When I began seeing Domina I referred to her as Miss _______ out of respect. This is the manner in which I would address a Dominant who was an acquaintance but terms such as "Mistress" and "Domina" can be very personal. Soon, this form of address seemed inadequate and I asked permission to address her as "Domina," which she likes.

I still remember the pride that I felt the first time that she addressed me as "slave." As I am sure you know, this is a BDSM designation that implies some form of ownership. I still beam with pride each time she refers to me in this manner.

While this terminology does not fit everyone's relationship dynamic, it works for Domina and me.

Best of luck, Ma'am, in your name search!

 

I'm called Mistress or Princess and I call him my Pig or Piggy. I can explain if you'd like if you message me

 

While we do have our own nicknames that are sexual in nature but not related to BDSM/chastity (mine is Sugar Dick), I will never forget the time my wife (back when we were dating and shooting a game of pool at the local pub) has said that if I didn't win that I would be "Her Bitch."

And that, was when I learned that it didn't take much to get me to throw a billiards match...