Advice needed

Not a female so please excuse me. But I did want to comment.

First kudos to you.
Next maybe you should start by reminding him you’re special and he needs to appreciate you,
Have him go through all of the posts here counting the number of guys who would love to have a woman like you.

Maybe then have him read Elsie Sutton’s website. Especially all of the real stories.
Have him report back to you on what the site is, and why it’s important.

Next have him remove his chastity and have him not say a word about it for a week,
After the week lock him up again and have him on his hands and needs. You can then remind him who is to be seen and not heard in your own style and wayand make sure he knows it’s not him.
Don’t set a day to release him. Instead make it real and make him submit to you.

Finally let him know if he misbehaves you return to no chastity. Believe it or not this is actually a big deterrent to many guys into this lifestyle,

Oh and of course add whatever other punishments suggested that you like and ignore this one if you don’t like it!

 

It very difficult to say how you should punish him. Do to the fact that we really don’t know much about your relationship, how committed your Chastity lockup is, so any advice that is given needs to be taken only as suggestions.

If he wants Chastity and to be locked more so than you do , which is normal and he wants you to take more control over his erections and orgasms than give him What He Wants. Under Your Rules. For example, his backside should be tanned ,his mouth washed out with soap, his Chastity time increased and possible his duties around the house increased. A little twist to this would be to write his new responsibilities and punishments down instead of Saying Anything. Than he’ll get what he wants you will be seen and felt but not heard. My Mistress uses what I say and do to her advantage in different ways like this.

Remember this is only a suggestion. Take Control and Good Luck.

 

As others have said, there's no right and wrong way. But you do need to decide where you are going to take a stance in the relationship. I'm guessing its annoyed you and that's why you are asking for advice here. I know what my Mistress/Keyholder/Wife would do to me - I would be taught a lesson and would continue to be punished until I changed my attitude and showed my Mistress/Goddess the respect She deserves.

Chastity can be a very powerful attitude changer for a man, especially if he thinks it is "just a game". Other things my Mistress has said to me include "remember, this is how you wanted it", "we're doing it my way or not at all". as @Mash2214 said try to remember what he has said and use it back on him to your advantage.

Instead of a punishment, think of a treat for yourself. Have him pleasure you orally for a week, even longer before he gets any interest or contact.

Whatever you decide it will probably set the route for the future, but keep to your decision and don't cave when he moans and whines to you about it.

 

Are you actually annoyed at his response or is this theatrical outrage as part of a "game"?

 

I actually think this is good advice. It sounds like he was trying to provoke the response he wanted from you rather than paying attention to your needs. That's my perspective as another man who shares this lifestyle.

 

That's good to hear. Sadly, you got responses from people living in fantasy land. If you were to actually punish him in the sense of seriously wanting to discourage a negative behavior for responding in kind to a joke when you set the tone, you'd be entering the realm of the absurd.

Since this is mainly a joke, I suggest you gag him so that he can be seen but not heard. If you have a ball gag, that would be perfect, but if not, stuff his mouth with a pair of his underwear (Your underwear could be seen as a reward) and make him stay that way until you get bored or he literally can't take it anymore.

 

There are no hard and fast "rules" to this, each couple makes up their own rules. I would say the only rule is "Keyholder is in charge of the lock" and any other control you add to the relationship is up to you.

If he was serious, however, and said something that annoyed or insulted you, it's a different matter entirely. I don't like giving punishments because if I have reason to punish him that means he's done something to disrespect or hurt me. At that point it's not a given task so much as a conversation: Why do you submit to me if you don't respect me? Why do you say things that you know will make me unhappy? I'm much more the type to have him write an essay explaining his actions than I am to spank him. I don't see a point in punishment that doesn't foster growth. Just my 2 cents. Have you looked up "funishments"? That could be a lot of fun for both of you when you're feeling playful.

Although applying a gag as needed is also a stellar technique ;-)

Gaia <3 <3

 

And do any of the suggestions so far appeal to him or scare him? If not I'm sure the fine people here at CM can come up with some that do ;-)

 

Miss Jaime, Seen and not heard huh.

Reverse on him. He should not speak for his current lock up time, every word or sound he makes in your presence will add a day (or hour if you are kind) to the lock up time.

 

Alright folks enough giving her ideas

 

Oh, don't worry. We're just getting started. << Insert evil grin here >>

 

As my wife would say, "You have no power here."

 

Sorry but keyholders hold all the power.

 

Since other men are making suggestions:

I think you should be seen and heard but not touched or tasted.

Your next few orgasms should be with him kneeling in the corner watching and listening while you get off.

For added mean, you inspect him after wards. Any sign of dripping/precum results in the next session going exactly the same way. (Warn of him of this rule before beginning.)