Unfair or well deserved?

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    #1 Miss anne, Mar 19, 2018
    So around 5 months ago me and my partner decided to stop smoking, i must say it was a struggle but i eventually kicked the habit! Unfourtunatly his willpower was not as strong, which i can understand that its a struggle but i thought we would both be able to achieve this together.

    Although i was dissapointed i coped with his habit until recently, his constant smoking around 25 a day is starting to give me a craving again so i think its time i do something about it.

    We use his chastity device very regular (obviously) sometimes hes locked for a while other times he is released for a few days here and there or sometimes just let out for playtime.

    So the suprise, unfair or acceptable?

    He left for work this morning locked after a weekend of freedom, but he will be in for a suprise when he gets home, i have hidden away one of the 2 keys but the other has been placed in the kitchen safe timelock box currently set to 4 days.

    I have decided to add 6 hours onto the time for each cigarette he has in my presence at home so if he has 4 in the evening thats another day etc, not a large amount of time but enough to keep the days piling up if he decides against cutting down, so he has the oppertunity to be released in 4 days or the possible prospect of been locked for a very long time! I of course have my key so i can release him if i wish to use him but that will be strictly on my terms with a possible punishment afterwards depending in my mood.

    So is this unfair or a well deserved punishment?
     
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    #2 Joan.t, Mar 19, 2018
    Very well deserved, you did a nice job on that.
    Keep the good work and don't relax.
     
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    #3 Londonmale, Mar 19, 2018
    Miss Anne,

    I think that's a brilliant way to encourage him not smoking so much and hopefully stopping altogether :)
     
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    #4 Deleted member 53138, Mar 19, 2018
    Thank goodness I quit before my wife......
     
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    #5 toddwr150r, Mar 19, 2018
    Yep I'd say that'll probably work.
     
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    #6 DonnaSue, Mar 19, 2018
    At 25 per day, he obviously has a relatively strong nicotine addiction and with that comes a physical tolerance level that has to be achieved. The half life of nicotine is 2 hours, so after 8 hours without replenishment, his body is 95% nicotine free & that is the time to be quitting while minimizing the withdrawal. Reducing the number of cigarettes, if it works at all, must be done over a long time (i.e. 4-5 weeks). To really help him, consider cutting him off from all aspects of smoking upon awakening one morning and then give him plenty to stay busy for the next 3 days as his cravings subside.

    With the keys in your possession, you are in control. Can you find ways to keep him safely occupied without any cigarettes? If you can do so, he will be forever grateful and submissive to you in gratitude for helping him quit! (WHo knows, we may have just happened on a new method for smoking cessation!)
     
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    #7 spider203, Mar 19, 2018
    Good idea but i am an x smoker and i think that one cigarette should be one day extra in the cage.
     
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    #8 Inkstar, Mar 19, 2018
    A well crafted strategy indeed. One that i think many here will find perfectly acceptable considering you are using one power tool to combate his powerful addiction that, if successful, will have extend not only his life, but yours as well.

    As I'm sure you're already aware, he may become more irritable and even aggressive as the withdraws occur. Stsy strong and just love him through the process and you two will make it through it! :)

    Also, long term studies show that quitting cold turkey is still the most effective method as far as preventing relapse. Data shows, those who quit smoking cold turkey are over 70% less likely to pick the "stinkies" back up. Best of luck and let us know how everything turns out.
     
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    #9 rep041268, Mar 19, 2018
    I'm not a smoker, but I think it is an excellent way to help kick the habit. You will soon find out what is more important to him... His cock or his cigarettes!
     
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    #10 toddwr150r, Mar 19, 2018
    Perhaps adding time on a curve, day one is adding the hours as you first suggested, or on week one, then for a second period of time the amount of time for each cigarette doubles. Then doubles again for a third period of time.
     
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    #11 Miss anne, Mar 19, 2018
    i must say this has crossed my mind if he decides to cut down slowly over a long period of time, i dont feel like i can be too harsh to start off with....but then again i have thought about asking him how many he has had at work today before i tell him my plans and then adding that to his time just to show i mean business!
     
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    #12 Londonmale, Mar 19, 2018
    Miss Anne,

    You're totally right, smoking anywhere counts, a lil tip check his breath when you takes the bins out ?
     
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    #13 guest 2942, Mar 19, 2018
    I think this is a great idea. If you want him to be successful in quitting he needs your help. You could also help him out by possibly cranking up the tease and denial. Anytime he craves a cigarette, give him something else to crave and take his mind off of smoking, give him something else to focus on mentally, namely yourself :D
     
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    #14 toddwr150r, Mar 19, 2018
    A good pegging every time he expresses a craving for a smoke then?
     
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    #15 JosieLynn Jewell, Mar 19, 2018
    I'm going to go against nearly every other reply in this thread. I think this will cause him to "sneak" cigarettes, and foster a period in your relationship where communication is not honest. Several others have suggested weaning him off of them, which sounds logical to someone who's never smoked, but realizes it's an addiction.

    Tell him if he really needs something in his mouth that badly, you're going to wear your strap-on whenever you're home together, and he can suck on you instead.
     
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    #16 Love&Passion, Mar 19, 2018
    A great idea and well deserved!
     
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    #17 Miss anne, Mar 19, 2018
    Very true i can see how this might come about and expect him to have one every now and again without me knowing, plus i wont mind as i know myself how hard it is, but even if i get him to curb his habit at home around me i see it as a success with a lot of fun along the way
     
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    #18 bondinchas, Mar 19, 2018
    the problem is, if he craves both cigarettes and chastity, then it's not going to work as intended as he'll then get plenty of both.
     
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    #19 Ole, Mar 19, 2018
    Sounds a great idea
     
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    #20 Miss anne, Mar 19, 2018
    Well as soon as he walked through the door he had his usual cigarette, we sat down and had our meal followed by another cigarette.

    We had a chat and i brought up the subject and it was warmly recieved, so we went up to the bedroom the keysafe was set to 4 days and activated....then i added another 12 hours onto it for the 2 earlier which instantly suprised him! I then gave him a little tease and told him if he makes a serious effort then to remember i also have a key but only if i feel he has deserved it, and that if i wish to use him, it will most probably be followed by a price to pay.
     
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    #21 Miss anne, Mar 19, 2018
    If i see hes not making an effort then i can always choose to not release him for pleasure, and with our relationship we have a very active sex life the lingest he gas gone without an orgasm is around a month and he was climbing the walls so i believe he might be in for the longhaul, i think he'll eventually give one or the other up and i can get plenty if pkeasure out of him in other ways.
     
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    #22 guest 2942, Mar 19, 2018
    interesting to see how he gets on with this. Quiting smoking is very diffficult.
     
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    #23 Strict Sir, Mar 19, 2018
    Totally fair. It's so important to quit, so anything that might work. I'm like Spider though, I'd go with a day per cigarette. I think there needs to be more of a reckoning than a few hours. This is one instance where you can rightfully say it's for his own good.
     
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    #24 LesterBallard, Mar 19, 2018
    It's an ingenious approach, though I understand where @JosieLynn Jewel is coming from. It'll be interesting to see if it works.
     
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    #25 Chiannaa, Mar 19, 2018
    He cant sneak cigarettes if he has no money to buy them.
     
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