I'm new to the site and wanted to say hi and make afew comments about me and my world. I got divorced 6 years ago and have been looking for a suitable significant other ever since. I have what I believe is a porn addiction and this was the main contributing factor in the decision my ex wife and I took in us seperating and subsequently divorcing. I only wish I had found out about chastity and the benefits of it whille we were still together. We occasionally played with mild bondage with me being a mostly sub but she wasn't really enthusiastic and she did it to please me but as I knew her heart wasn't in it I enjoyed it less and less untill for the last couple of years our marriage was virtually sex free hence my need to find diversion on the 'net. I'm sure, looking back that had she put me in chastity I would have remained a loyal, loving husband and would have enjoyed the constant "bondage" of the chastity device enough to keep me from temptation and enforce my natural submissive instincts allowing me to serve her in any way she desired. So to today and I guess I'm looking for any advice you guys and gals may have on how I can go about finding someone who wants to be a partner on an essentially equal footing but also hold the keys to my sexual desires. I don't want another same old vanilla relationship. Thanks for reading. Skin. PS I'm in Cheshire, England.
Very simple sweetie....comunication!!! When you find another be up front with her, tell her some of your desires. I'm not talking about on the first date, but you can tell by being with someone if they are submissive or more Dominating. The number 1 problem that is most discussed here is how do I get my wife/girlfriend to get into this lifestyle. Well....lets see, shes not going to wake up one day a be a Domme so the only way is to actually communicate with her and tell her how you feel. I cant help you with 'How' to find a new companion, but I can tell you, once you do, be honest about what you want lest you end up in an unhappy relationship again. Mistress Michelle :sex020:
I agree with Mistress Michelle completely, but would like to add......DO NOT PUSH. When you find that special someone and have discussed your lifestyle choice with her, give her time to digest everything and find Her way in it. Don't try to push her in the direction you would like to see things go. Encouragement is one thing...pushing is another! Good Luck- Ms.Linda
Many thanks for your comments Mistress' Michelle and Linda, I will defo take them on board. The difficulty is finding the right time to raise the subject. I don't want to scare anyone off! Once again, many thanks.
When I met my (now) sissy-hubby, he told me everything (he could think of) right from the start. Granted, this seems like a weird way to do things, but for us it was perfect. W/we had both been married before and were simply tired of all the games people play. Being upfront and open so early on gave me the opportunity to either accept it, or walk away without investing a lot of time and emotion. Obviously, I chose to accept! And it's been almost 20 years. It hasn't all been easy. Occasionally his needs and desires over-ride his sensibility, but because of good communication W/we are beyond the era of him shocking Me with his requests.
Thank you very much. I can certainly see that approaching the subject early saves time and emotional distress later. I'm going to pluck the courage to attend a munch near-ish where I live just to make some new friends and contacts. I'm hoping that through this I can at least widen my group of friends with a view to meeting new people. Also, having reread my post it sounds a bit desperate. I'm not desperate, I'm quite content exploring this myself for now and I don't regret the past. I'm simply looking for a positive move forward. Cheers. Skin.