Why I am foolish

Sorry to hear about her lack of interest. Was she emotionally/sexually available before you told her you wanted to make this life style change? Even the most confident and domineering of woman may take a bit of time to learn about and adjust to their new role in a female lead relationship. Continue to expressto her how important it is to you and how it can bring the two of you to new positive experiences in life for both of you with the emphasis and focus really on her. Let her know that there is a real potential to make her happier with you and life than she's ever been. Wish you the best in your future.

 

So sorry to hear

 

Yes it will I was a over the road truck driver my wife loved locking me up before I left. Now that in home locks it more often.

 

@Foolish :things seem to be progressing nicely;maybe time for a name change...

 

Guess what buddy...she's digging it. If she truly felt it was weird or troubling, she would have asked you to take that ridiculous thing off as soon as you two were becoming intimate. She didn't. You two probably have a certain routine or expectation after going down on her, she didn't forget about your penis, she went to sleep without pleasing you. In my experience I have never met a woman who did anything absentmindedly or not noticed something in her bed. Behavior, clothing, attention, who initiates etc..

She might be testing the waters to see if she is ok with it, testing you if you are really ok with it, and applying some new found knowledge she most assuredly looked up while you were away.

Either she is liking the idea, or giving it a chance to grow on her. Sounds like you will be fine as long as you focus on this being about her and not you. No pestering for release, no you need to do this or that, let her get into it in her own time. The other treats will come when she's ready to give them to you and when she starts to really enjoy it. Good luck

 

Some women are tricky because they won't initiate or ever ask for sex. Just make sure you make her feel desired and loved.

 

Sounds to me like she may have researched it after your initial suggestion and apparently must have found some interest and acceptance. I wouldn't push it, I'd lay back if I were you, continue doing what you've done so far, and see if she expresses any interest or starts taking the lead. I think you're home free if you don't pressure her.Sometimes followers will quickly change to leaders if given a chance. I'll bet in no time you'll be her bitch.

 

Who knows? She may have even joined CM and is reading all these comments.
Ss

 

Always sorry to hear

 

Sorry to hear your situation, but after the reading just the first post, I knew this would be the outcome.
How would you feel if your wife spent a similar amount of money on something without discussing it?
Why did you give her the keys after the divorce threat? Maybe you taking the device off is what she really wants?

Good communication is absolutely vital to introducing any kink. Chasity (or any other kink) will not solve any marital issues without communication and acceptance from a partner. Partners views need to be respected, and if they aren't interested, don't pursue it for a while, and until it has been discussed thoroughly.

 

Good luck

 

sorry to hear. There is no call for judgment, and this is no time for comments. I hope you can sort yourself out, whether it goes through separation or reparation. Stay around, you have friends here who can understand.

 

So sorry to read and hope you can turn the corner

 

I'm sorry to hear that. It's clear that the chastity thing is definitely not part of this equation—it sounds like you guys had a lot of other "life" going on. I sincerely hope you can navigate these waters.

 

Someone asked me to read your comments and weigh in but not sure you actually want advice or simply a place to vent. Obviously introducing something like chastity into a marriage without discussing it first and very very slowly gauging your spouse's acceptance of it is not a good thing. I know that in my own marriage we did not become a cuckold couple or engage in chastity quickly. It literally took years and dozens of conversations before we took each tiny baby step towards what eventually happened and even then it only happened because my Mistress/wife has always been open to sexual exploration. Without that last part the more kinky things or sexual things that are considered to be deviant by the mainstream of society are always hot buttons or possible trouble spots for a marriage.

Now I dont know you or your wife or her level of a desire to explore things like chastity or a female led marriage but may I ask...since you first sprung this on her, have you ever sat down and talked about it all? Have you offered to stop doing it? Have you ever explained why you are excited at the thought of her controlling your cock and orgasms and how you want to put her first in terms of giving pleasure?

Again I have no idea if you have or have not but as someone else pointed out, communication is the key sweetheart. I will shut up now and please understand I am only attempting to help so if you ever want to chat please let me know ok? Either way I wish you luck in finding a happy resolve.

 

Sorry to hear about the rough road that is occurring in your marriage. I am not an expert in marriage counseling but I do know this after almost 30 years of marriage. Communication is the key. Talk, talk, and talk some more and when you think your all talked out, talk some more. I hope the road smooths out for you. I wish nothing but the best for you and your wife.

 

It takes time. To you, the idea is like a kid in a candy store. You want to bite it all off, chew it up and spit it out now. To her, it's a bolt out of the blue. A shock, out of context with her life. You caught her unawares and most especially, you caught her feeling unaware about who she had married. So, now, naturally, she's on the defensive. I have just started 24/7 chastity in a custom made belt, with my wife as the willing and active keyholder. It took me years to get here with her. Years where an initial discussion at the start was a complete head fuck for her. She recoiled and we both had a bad experience going through the discussion.

You know what they say: if you put a live frog in a pan of hot water it will jump out. If you put it in a cold pot of water and slowly turn up the heat it will stay in there and cook. (Not that I boil frogs alive, of course). We started then to have more open and frank discussions about what was missing in our partnership, in our life. This went well out of the sex arena and into every nook and cranny. Years later we, by never forcing it, found we had arrived back at a place where the conversation could be had and was almost effortless.

By opening up the discussions about everything, removing any expectations about one another and starting to rebuild your relationship, this is how you can arrive at a place where the discussions can incorporate subjects you both would have found uncomfortable with one another. Take it easy, be honest and open and focus on the critical component of your life, which is not the fetish, but the relationship and you might find you get to where you want to be.

Good luck.

 

Sorry to hear about what your going through. Just know that you have a whole community here who are here for you.

 

Sorry to hear that.
AS sai by HubSub "It's clear that the chastity thing is definitely not part of this equation"

Good luck