My wife and I have been married 20 yrs. got into chastity 5 yrs ago. It changed the whole dynamic of our relationship. We have friends, a nice couple married 14 hrs. They are having a rough time, basically complaining about the same thing we were five years ago. Do we suggest chastity. Stay out of it. Any input would be helpful. Many thanks.
Man., that is tough. I have had similar situations arise but chickened out. What it comes down to is whether you are willing to "out" yourselves. Of course, the woman never looks like the "oddball" in these situations and they quickly spin the man to be the freak who has messed up fetishes (my mind turns to well known men dined out for having foot fetishes while not having broken any laws who are now always the butt of jokes and derision). IF you think this couple will not spread the news of your lifestyle like wildfire because it is tawdry but will actually embrace your advice as dear friends I say go for it. You could always use the "We know rhis other couple..." approach too. A VERY tough choice. Only you know how well you can trust them. Choose wisely. allaboutHer
I agree with Allabouther in the Idea of the approach. It would seem more likely that the woman would be talking about such things. And you could say that I read an article in Cosmopolitan that was in doctors office, where a troubled couple used Chasity and how it helped. Then leave it up to them to explore it if they want. Maybe by just planting the seed . That way you can leave your personal lives out of it, as you refer to the intriguing article that you saw at the doctors office magazine.
Be very careful. It all depends on how much you trust them. PLUS if they do eventually break up, then all bets are off. Generally, it is better to let the women try this as a separate talk.
For us it's not really about outing ourselves. We ask ourselves who are we to decide how, or even if they should work things out. Very sticky indeed, and I appreciate your inputs
Chastity will not resolve problems in a relationship, especially if they can't agree on what the problem is or worse, that there is a problem. They should work out any issues first,
I happen to have a lot of experience with this topic. The bottom line is this. There are multiple reasons why people are interested in chastity and multiple benefits that come with it. That being said, the complexities of marriage far outweigh what chastity brings to the table. There are numerous issues in a marriage that chastity will not solve. It's rare that a couple will have a serious issue in their marriage that can be solved by chastity..not saying it doesn't happen...just saying it's rare from what I've seen. Each couple and each situation is different. Chastity is no doubt very sexy and can help with some things...but the root of the issue will not be solved with chastity.
Do you have a friendship with this couple that includes being able to talk about sexual matters? If yes then you could consider talking about the way orgasm control for a male can be an incredible way of bringing a couple closer without having to go as far as mentioning chastity. If you don't then the am not sure how you would drop it into a conversation. I have been dropping the link to this article into quite a few of my posts recently, you could consider passing it on to them. http://scandalouswomen.com/orgasmic-benefits-of-male-orgasm-denial/