Hi everyone, I'm new to this forum but not new to chastity. I've been locked up by my lovely key holder since May of 2016. I started over at chastity forums and thought I would branch out over here for a little kink. My Mrs. M is fairly vanilla but she has an open mind and is willing to try new things. I however am a dirty boy pretty much willing to try almost anything, I hope my KH delves further into her darker side.
My wife is really vanilla also. How did you convince her to your chastity ways??? Any other help would be greatly appreciated.
Nice to meet you! Well everyone's situation is different but what I did first was just flat out ask her if she would lock me in chastity. She got shy just like she normally does when I try to bring any sort of stuff like that up for conversation. She told me she'd think about it, then left me hanging for like a week. I brought it up to her again and she was still unsure, she said yes then she said no and then she was unsure again. I find when I have things that are tough to discuss face to face with her I usually type my wife an email explaining things, I find I articulate much better. So in a nutshell I admitted to my wife that I had been watching porn and masturbating for a very very long time and I would do it very often. I let her know I wanted to stop masturbating and watching porn, I wanted her to lock up my penis and give her the key and that she be the only one that is allowed to let me orgasm. I wanted to focus on her pleasure and happiness, also that she was in charge in the bedroom. I bought her a book off of amazon.com called "male chastity" by Lucy Fairbourn. She read my email and then read the book. It's a short book and she read it within an hour. She came out of our bedroom to the tv room where I was and said "I wanna do it!". I ordered my first chastity device that night with her approval on the model of course. From there we experimented with different things, most notably would be pegging, I love it and she said she like it too but it's not often we have that kind of play. In all fairness to her we still have been doing this for less than a year but she throughly enjoys having a lock and key to my penis. If you are just starting out I would recommend www.chastityforums.com, it's a great place to start especially for women who are unsure about male chastity. I have a blog over there is one of the forums titled "The Jouney" under "[lockedwithlove] a beginners experience". I explain what made me want to be in chastity as well the the emails and conversations my wife and I had about... As well as a lot of dirty sex. Anyway feel free to ask me if you have any more questions I'd me happy to help.
You can never know what will get a woman into exercising her powers over you! Ours was a pretty vanilla marriage for about 26 years. During that time, I developed a fetish for lingerie and one day, my wife caught me wearing panties. At first, she was pretty taken aback and then a few days later she said that if I really wanted dress feminine I should go for a bra fitting (thinking, I'm sure that this dare would put an end to it). Well, I went for that fitting and bought a neat & sexy bra and came home and modeled it for her. She snapped some pictures of me and then began to "blackmail" me to get things her way - or she would expose my kink. Here we are , 5 years later and I am Her caged sissy slut. The open communication that we now enjoy has made our marriage very much better and more interesting. I only wish that we had discovered FLR and chastity many years sooner. IMHO, the more your relationship is about such open communications, with Her in complete control, the better it will be! I believe that all women are gifted with the power over men and the sooner both of you learn that the better it will be for you both!
...go slow, and try not to get too far out ahead of here, you were way down the trail when you turned back and asked her to walk with you after all! I bet you find a good happy place with her, have fun!
You have been locked up since May 2016 ??? How´s that possible ?? My calenday says today is 19th January 2016 Welcome anyway