Chastity : a beautiful surprise

Hello everyone,

After my introduction in the Foyer section where I told you about how I discovered chastity, it’s time to tell how the journey is going on so far!

Let’s summarize how I got here for the ones too lazy to read my intro.

I’m a 21 years old man, and I’ve always been attracted to the “femdom” world. So one day I finally decided to start my quest of woman who could dominate me in order to fulfill my long list of fantasies. Chastity was not one of them, I didn’t really know about it. Eventually I met someone who was interested to have her first experience with me. At first all she wanted was someone to do the chores at her apartment. On top of that, she wanted me not to masturbate but wasn’t really sure if I did or not. At some point she introduced me to chastity, and I decided to give it a try even if I wasn’t really sure it was what I expected from that relationship.

So it has been roughly 3 months since my first introduction to chastity and I’m loving every second of it!

Before I start, I want to add something I didn’t want to reveal before: I’m still virgin. I’m quite shy and since I’ve never told anyone about my private life, it can be difficult for me to reveal it here. For the moment my KH doesn’t know it and I don’t really plan to tell her.

Ok, so let’s start:

Basically, at the moment, our relationship is based on me doing the chores. I need to do them at least twice a week. That means cleaning every part of her apartment, doing her laundry and when she’s here (yes, she has the keys of my chastity cage and I have her apartment’s keys) cooking for her. When everything is in order and it is always true, I get to be released once a week.

Recently she began to unlock me herself (she also wanted to lock me but I’m getting too excited when she tries it so she gave up for now), before that she used to only give me the key and I went to the bathroom to do my thing. It was a huge step for me, because it was the first “sexual act” we did and she’s also the first person to touch my penis.

It was also a big step for her I think because before that she was always trying to keep this border between us, we were in a female led relationship but without involving sex. I believe that she is getting more and more used to my company and she’s feeling comfortable with taking down her defenses. I don’t call her mistress or anything of that kind, I simply call her by her own name and I think this is the key to our relationship. On top of that, she rarely give me straight orders. When I’m at her place, I know what to do and she’s like “Could you do that?” instead of “Do that!”. Don’t get me wrong, she knows she is the dominant one and she really acts like one.

Anyway, she recently went on holydays for a week increasing my usual one week lockup to a two weeks one. And of course she didn’t tell me in advance, so it was quite a surprise for me when I found out!

When she came back, we talked a lot about our relationship. She brought up the fact that we were different, I mean she is a 29 years old woman who is working in a company while I’m still studying at university. That did scare me a lot, knowing the fact we were just starting to experience some new things. But anyway she did say that for the moment she wanted to focus on her work and our relationship and see where it leads us.

On a more pleasant side, I definitely know that she wants to take our relationship to the next level since we talked a lot about my limits. I didn’t give her a long list of limits since I don’t really want to restrain her from exploring her evil side with me! She told me to be ready to serve her new desires soon.

So I’m really excited about whatever is going to happen, and I will try to keep you updated.

 

Hello !

It's been two months since my last post, so I felt like I needed to give you a quick update !

Our relationship is really different from then. I'm still in charge of the chores but we tried a lot of new things and of course my releases are now very rare. It's been nearly a month since my last release and I don't think it's coming to an end soon.

We've been experiencing a lot with anal play lately and I'm really starting to enjoy it and get pleasure out of it. That made me think a lot about my sexuality, I'm starting to feel like I couldn't give up on anal play even in a vanilla relationship.

On top of that, the fact that I'm still virgin (btw : I told her) is now bothering me more than ever. I recently met a girl who is interested in me, and obviously I can't really be in a real relationship with her... So I'm pretty confused at the moment, I'm living wonderfully with my "domme" but there is no real "love". I care about her and I like her and I think she feels the same way about me but we are not lovers...
She doesn't kiss me or rarely, and even if we have sexual intercourses (obviously not including my dick, lol), we are not a couple.
I didn't talk to her about that for the moment.

So I would really welcome your thoughts about my situation !

 

@jemima We only sleep in the same bed when she comes to my place and that happened twice. When I am at her apartment, I can't sleep with her. It allows me to prepare the breakfast before she wakes up lol.

 

Thanks for your thoughts, it really helped me especially yours @MistressPhedre !

Eventually, I ended up telling my Domme about my worries and that girl. We talked a lot about it and she made clear that she wouldn't let me have another relationship that could involves sex. At first it was a disappointment for me, but I really understood her choice. It's been nearly half a year since we began our relationship and my sexual life has totally changed, having a relationship which isn't based on my chastity would totally ruin what we achieved in 6 months. In the end I'm glad she feels that way, it shows how much she cares about our relationship !

 

Oh and I forgot, I achieved my first month in chastity yesterday ! Really proud about that knowing that 6 months ago I didn't even know about chastity cages. I'm definitely missing the feeling of orgasm though.

 

As I am about to get over 2 months of chastity, I'm now starting to experience the feelings of long-term lockups. Before that it wasn't so hard to wait for my next orgasm as I have had only experienced relatively short lockups (less than a month).
But now the serious business starts ! Thankfully, my domme is proud of how much efforts I put into accepting my fate and she knows how difficult it is for me.

Those last months were really benificial for me, as that's when I learned what being a true submissive meant and how hard it could be to finally let go and totally submit to the domme (not just sexually speaking). I couldn't have done that without the help of a lot of readings throughout the "mansion". And for that I am thankful to every member of this forum. I'm now more than ever happy with the relationship I have today !

On top of that, after expressing those feelings to my domme, we both decided to challenge my commitment by coming back to the core of our relationship : the domestic tasks. During my next lockup session, basically after she has decided to release me, she will not have any sexual interaction with me. To sum up, we decided to stop the sex plays for the duration of one lockup session, things going back to normal after that. The duration is as always up to her.

I'm really looking forward to this session, because focusing on domestic tasks and not having any pleasure coming from her sexually playing with me will validate what kind of sub I want to be.
I must precise that she made clear that she doesn't and will never want any sexual service coming from me.

I think it'll be the thoughest session to handle so far. And knowing that she likes to apply the rule : "the duration of the next session will always be longer than or equal to the duration of the previous one", I fear being released and staying locked up at the same time, lol.

 

So my domme ended our relationship 4 days ago. The main reason is that she's dating someone and wants to be honest with him. Another reason is that in May 2016 I will leave the country to finish my studies. Given those reasons she decided to end the relationship.

For the moment, I don't really know what to do... She gave me the keys but I'm still locked.

I knew this day would come eventually but not that abruptly. I'm feeling a little bit sad about it but not so much since I'm with my family celebrating Christmas.

 

Thanks for the support guys

 

Thanks again for your support guys, it was very appreciated.

Anyway, I'm still in contact with my (ex) domme, we're still chatting every now and then about different topics but mostly chastity. In fact she loves to hear my advises because she wants to introduce her boyfriend to chastity. I'm really proud of being able to help her on that even though he might go through a lot, lol. In that case I've completely violated men's solidarity haha.

Lately, I've been in and out of my chastity cage, mostly out to be honest, but recently I've got interested in the NoFap challenge. For those of you who don't know about it, it's a challenge where you have to not masturbate for a period of time. It is not related with chastity at all. A lot of men are doing this challenge because it is supposed to bring a lot of benefits in your life. Anyway I've decided to try to do this challenge for a month, but without wearing my cage. I'm not going to lie, I think it's going to be tough given the frequency at which I masturbate since I got my key back.
I don't want to do this because of those "benefits", but really because I kind of miss the feeling of restraint and not being able to masturbate I had with my domme.

On another topic, I recently met a very religious woman in the train, and we did talk a lot about chastity, but in the religious way. That woman was in her 30's and has a very extreme vision of sex in our society. Basically she thinks that sex was only meant to be for procreation and nothing else. Of course I strongly disagree with that, but it was interesting to hear her point of view and I was quite happy to openly talk about chastity even if it was in the religious way. On top of that, I did reveal her that I was still virgin, she was quite impressed and kind of proud of me for not succumbing to the temptation. That was a really strange feeling, lol.