So, my wife (Keyholder) and I began this journey of chastity back in February and have pretty much been locked up 24/7 since, minus releases for her pleasure. In the beginning, I thought our journey would be that of the traditional experience with tease and denial and such. Now, Keyholder is by no means a dominant woman and that has also been true in our chastity experiment. She enjoys sex far too much to keep my dick locked away. Dildos just don't seem to be the same for her. Though she does allow me to masturbate her and give her orgasms without unlocking me, many times she will release me for sex afterwards. We have talked about the tease and denial activities, but she feels guilty not letting me cum and enjoys seeing me orgasm too much to not allow it. I don't know if she will come around to the T&D stuff, but she enjoys me being locked and seeing it locked, as I am required to provide proof pics (as we call them) whenever she asks throughout the day. I'll simply get a text with the emoji . Her enjoyment in chastity is not denying me, but is more about knowing I will not have erections without her allowing it and her being there and certainly won't be cumming without her. My enjoyment has been the daily wearing, constantly feeling it and knowing it is locked for her and for her alone. Overall the experience so far has made both of us more sexual with each other and created fun teases and more erotic talking between us. After tryin a couple different devices, we are currently using a Jailbird knock off, but do suffer testical slip outs occasionally during some activities. We are currently looking into getting the real deal from Mature Metal. So, although we may not be doing it "right", we are still having fun!
Hiya Can't see anything wrong with what you are doing in the slightest. Carry on and enjoy x. Xx Wendy
Wonderful There is nothing wrong with doing things YOUR OWN WAY and feeling GREAT ! Congrats and thank you for sharing.
There is no right way and wrong way. Sounds like the both of you are having fun with it and that's what matters most. Remember the saying "BCWYWF"? If and when she ever does get into the T&D and enjoys benefits of it, you will never forget.
The last part of your sentence is the most important part in all of this, glad your having a great time!
@FoxFX There is nothing wrong in what you are doing. There is no rule book, just what works for you. Enjoy the ride.. Enjoy the releases. Regards Lucy x
sounds like me and my wife. Hard to get her into teasing and long term denial. But I must ask, why does she need pics? Doesnt she have the only keys?
The pics are more of just a fun thing to do. She enjoys seeing. Then she'll send me pics of her or pics of the key dangling from her panties. She does keep a key on her and then has one hidden in the house.
There is no RIGHT way! Enjoy what works for you as a couple and ultimately what is best for HER if you you are so moved. allaboutHer
@FoxFX Thank you for sharing your story! This is the sort of arrangement my wife and I imagine ourselves getting into eventually, but it goes against the dominant narrative of all the chastity literature I've found.
The photos probably to show her mates at lunchtime . Next time when you meet one of her friends in the shop or in the pub see where they look and if they give you big knowing grins Xx Wendy
You are 100% right if you Queen and Key holder is happy with the outcome.. That is all that matters! YOU just focus on pleasing HER and you are doing things 'right'! Good luck on your journey .. I can NOT Say enough good things about the GREAT Folks at MM! When you are ready I am here to help! PET
Every ones chastity is different, apart from your cock being locked away. It took my wife a little while to learn and change our chastity into what she wanted.
I think that is the most important part of it all, at least for us: "Her enjoyment in chastity is not denying me, but is more about knowing I will not have erections without her allowing it and her being there and certainly won't be cumming without her." That's how we started, and now recently she has suddenly become more Dominant and is really starting to get into the T&D aspect. It just took her some time.
You're doing exactly what my KH and I do. I'm locked when she's not around so that I can't play by myself. As others have mentioned, there's no rule book - do what makes you happy!
If you get better a pleasing her and really emphasise how much you enjoy being horny for her she will start denying you for longer with very litle more effort. As she gets to like that there is very good likelikood that there will be no going back. Continue having fun.
I suppose I'll carry on in this thread with additional tid bits of our journey, as there are so many forums and I haven't yet figured out what goes where. This morning I woke a little early with a rare screaming erection (or as much of one that was possible) in my cage. Surely the discomfort is understood with you all. My unrest eventually awoke my lovely KH, who immediately reached down to check on my condition, which was followed by a visual inspection of my swollen penis. She found the straining of the device and the protrusions between the steel bars hot and began to fondle her breasts and nipples while fondling my dick. Her hand moved down into her panties and the next several minutes were filled with her moans as she masturbated herself as I was helpless but to watch. Any attempt by me to touch her was met with my hands being shooed away. She finished herself as she moaned and whispered into my ear what she was doing and how great it felt. I was then left to lick clean her creamy fingers while she licked my dick through the bars. And just like that, she got up and readied for work. Leaving me with a straining, aching, locked cock. I suppose she is beginning to get the hang of this ;-)
She sounds like an amazing woman: the sort you can expect great things from and she won't let you down and will still manage to surprise you. Thanks for sharing your story!