What are the right questions that a Mistress/Master should ask their submissive/slaves, and themselves after a scene has failed.
I had to explain to a friend why I snorted like a pig when reading that. Thankfully she's kink aware and added that she knows several now
Hmmm.. how about the following: 1. What did you feel during the scene? When did it go wrong for you? 2. (Assuming the sub has a safeword) What kept you from safewording? (Subs sometimes get caught up in teh dynamic of pleasing the domme or sufferign through things and don't safeword until they are shattered. We need to gently remind subs that they have a responsibility to the domme to safeword if it is gettign to be too much.) 3. What are you feeling now? 4. What could either of us have done to either keep the scene from going bad or stopping it. 5. What commitments do we need to make about how we play to rebuild any trust that has been lost? 6. How can we communicate better both pre-scene and in-scene?
Thank you sweetie a lot of these reflect ones that I added to my own list, but some I had not thought of.