My perspective ... When I recognized that I had the propensity to be a submissive when it came to my relationship, I accepted that would come with certain 'rules' for me. The first one was developing manners. The next one was maintaining discipline. It was my Mistress's way or the highway. I chose my Mistress's way - and that has made all the difference. If my Mistress asked me to be silent ... or just even gave me the look of 'be silent' ... I became very silent. To me, this place only an extension of that. Males are submissive here. Women are the dominants. When the Verified Female thing first started, I though ... interesting but is it necessary? Since then I have come to be a vocal supporter of it. I believe that when a group of women (keyholders or otherwise) want to converse, share perspectives, trade knowledge, or what not - they should have a way to do that. And, if they want to do that in a way that keeps males from muddying the waters ... I say I am glad you now have a way. After all - CM is about male chasity, etc ... Males are the submissives and if the Ladies want us to be silent - we should be silent. Very silent. ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ As always, I am always looking for ways to learn. Please ... share what your spirit moves you to share ... I only ask that we keep it respectful.
We all have one. I thought with the thought of men masquerading as women I have to chuckle. Sorry, why would they? I have had some short conversations with some that struck me the wrong way. When I was contacted once by a former long term member, (you can guess who) it didn't last long. I was not in the least bit interested in a line of questions and just said "go away". It wasn't long after that the truth came out and many were very surprised. Well I don't really care about that. What I do care about is when these lovely women share we get to see other ideas and what they may or may not like. There are many K/H s here that impress me with their way of thinking, their insight into the world we live in and in the love that they want us to experience. I agree, my purpose has become to learn and become better with Her help and to read ideas from other women that we know are true women only helps in our growth and understanding. I am still mystified by this dimension of a relationship that is so strong, and yet so misunderstood. @El Guapo and I have become good friends and I know in our sharing with each other we have central ideas about the wonderful women we have, or have us. lol The love and respect we get is always reflected in everything we try and I mean try to do, we sometimes fail. We are thankful they pick us up and dust us off and on we go. I have said a few times to others their seems to be an almost unspoken communication at times with no words, just a look in the eye and you can see the connection. When I look at that forum I like to see the other side from outside of my own relationship. I respect all of those that share there and I think as @tecolote said, You all have much to teach us.
Yes, 87 ... why would they? Makes no never mind to me - if they did, okay, they have their reasons. I can accept that. It was the deception part that rankled me. Look, be who you want to be - and i will accept you and your choices. But be honest about it - deception breaks the trust factor. If this VF thing builds trust, then its a great idea. Thats a fact! As curious as I am about the 'whys' - some things I just accept without trying to decipher. To me, the eyes are the most captivating ... I am an 'eye guy'. Uh huh. So much to learn from there!
i would support a total shut out for males. i think such a group could have the effect of more women joining if they felt they were not being 'spied' upon. if male opinion on anything is sought, then Women have the option of demanding it through the open groups.