Hello, Ive known about chastity for some time. I never thought I would try it. I’ve done some light cross dressing and loved my feminine side. I started taking feminizing herbs on and off for a year and thought more about my female side. For my birthday I treated myself to a complete wax, head to toe, I loved the feeling. I bought my first cage and loved the feeling of peace that brought to me. Today I went to work locked for the first time. It was delicious! I have a long time girlfriend that I live with. She is my best friend and I do love her, but our sex life has diminished over the years and menopause has just about killed it. Sadly I doubt she would understand my kinks. She could barely accept the waxing.
Based on my direct experience, I would suggest that you have an open and honest conversation with Her as soon as you can. Explain to Her that you hate to masturbate and need Her help in overcoming your compulsion to wank. (All women seem to HATE the idea of their man wasting his sexual energy and denying Her). After She agreed to help control when and how I would be getting release, I later told Her about my desire to explore my feminine side. To delay having that conversation is risking your relationship and denying Her the ability to express Her feelings on the subject. I suspect that your relationship is more important to you than a desire or a fetish?
Thank you for the advice, I will think about it. I really don’t think she will be supportive though, I’m afraid if I do bring up the subject that will be the end. It may come to that, but I’m not ready yet. We have sex once every 4-5 months, if that. If everything isn’t perfect it doesn’t happen. Even when it does, I feel like I’m forcing her. She says it hurts her a lot. Oral is out of the question too.
hello @Notreallysure and welcome to here and i hope you like it here as well. oooh and as well i hope you get sure after a bit.