I’ve come across this site a few times over the years but never joined. My wife and I decided things were declining again with me in charge and it would be best if she was in charge. So we swapped roles. Again. I’ve backed out several times over the years. She is the husband and I am the wife. She is determined to start off with 3 months locked to make sure the attitude adjustment sinks in I suppose since I usually get surly and apathetic after one or two and have a bad night and call it off. I have mixed feelings about it obviously. I know in the long run it will be best for us. I really do know that. Buuuut I’m VERY instant gratification oriented. Extreme ADHD makes it worse. Today is Day is the last day of the first full week. She doesn’t even want it off for cleaning so I’ve gotten very good with a qtip and shampoo and think I actually found a way to keep smelling good without the cage coming off. Anyway hello again and looking forward to having people to talk to about the “road less traveled” here.
I’ve never seen her so determined. The feeling is much different from our other attempts. She seems... stronger.
Better support her that her decision is right. Any praise her for how strong she has become. Do as much as you can for her to get confidence in her strength. Maybe even say if you chicken out she should pull through this time so you can't stop
In my head I know her decision is right and will be better but the reality is... a bit intimidating. I do love how strong she has become and I adore her for that and will always encourage her to become stronger. She started this out saying this time if I try to back out that she won’t unlock or acknowledge my request until after we have both slept on it and then she would consider talking about it. Even more intimidating. I’m half aroused by it and half scared she won’t actually unlock me even if I “put my foot down”.
Have quite a lot of experience with startups and short stints in chastity. Before our last anniversary I told my spouse I was going to lock up for a month leading up to it so that we could screw the weekend away explosively at the bed and breakfast we go to every anniversary. She accepted and I regretted it half way through. I had never gone that long before I believe two weeks may have been the longest before that. Anyway I don’t think it was the sex on our anniversary that got her attention.. it was the change in my behavior and attitude leading UP to the special day. Since then the magic of longer lockup periods is sparkling in her eyes and I’m aroused enough to try it but also scared. A month seemed like eternity!! Seriously! I couldn’t believe the difference between two weeks and a month. It was like comparing a river to the ocean! And now 3 months?? Omg if she wasn’t so determined and sexy and strong I would not even consider this long!
it is hard the first time, like the first 3 days I endure look like a knighmare and now looks like an easy one. Then go for a week, 2 then 3, don't burn steps. I have endure several time more than a month, this is quite long but a needed step to be at ease and get addicted to the cage. After you will find it as a second skin. but do it at your speed. On my side I will try 2 months soon let's see if I can survive it.
Keep me posted when you start your two months. It would be nice to share my predicament in spirit to someone going through a similar time period! Thanks for the encouragement!
will try, I began on the 8th of July. After a travel, when back I will be without family then I can try the long caged period. I tried more than one month it has been hard the first time and better the second but yes it will be great to do it together to support us.