Hi. I am a 31 year old male from wisconsin. The subject has been brought up a few times with my wife about me being locked in chastity, unfortanately i am still free. So any advice would be great to help me encourage my wife to lock me up. Thanks
The fact you're swinging free still tells me your wife is not so keen on this. So my advice would be; let it go and find something you both love to do together.
Take it easy, this is for the women pleasure, don't press her. Mandynjack is right on that, go and pleasure her with all the things she likes, show that you love her and want to submit to her, maybe she will someday lock you up.
i think some women see male chastity as bizarre in the beginning. Why would they want to lock something on their cock? lol. When I told my wife I had her read this article which helped get her over the weird factor. http://gweninlove.blogspot.com/2012/03/fulfilled-fantasy-male-chastity-device.html
Thanks for that article i enjoyed it and it is from a ladies point of view so it might help her understand it better.
It might help those here to understand how you brought it up to your wife and how she responded. Most of us, me included, make all kinds of mistakes when initially broaching the subject. And welcome.
So a little bit about how it was first brought up to my wife. We were having some sex issues due to birth control so i wanted it all the time but she was never in the mood so i suggested we try chastity for me. So she looked it up and i acted like i had never heard of it before, so then she reacted with would you really want that on your thing. I said to her idk lets research more. Then being stupid after she had multiple dreams of me cheating on her, i suggested maybe we lock me up so she will be sure i cant cheat. We looked a little bit a few times and were about to order one when she said i dont want you to be in pain from that just because i had some dreams. I told her it would cause pain as long as it fits right. Then she just said can we just see if i keep having dreams. So she had a couple more and then i asked her if she wanted to order one now but she just said i am not ordering one. Thats were we sit as of now
The cage is only a symbol in the long run! It is your submissiveness and willingness to serve her that will make the difference. I would suggest that you simply do everything that you can to please her in any way possible - without mentioning what you are doing or asking for any sort of reward. Sooner or later, she will want to return your favors and she knows now what interests you, so let her put 2 and 2 together!
Hi thanks. I have been trying to do even more for her these days. Even for the first time i pleasured her sexually and then just told her we should go to sleep, without ever mention or asking about me getting anything
It seems as though you haven't actually told her that it is something YOU want to try because it turns you on. You have to be truthful when talking to her not make seem like its something she should do, especially to stop you cheating on her! Talk and honesty are the key to any relationship, remember it is something you want to do and share with her. Careful with the "being attentive to her needs" route, if you are all of a sudden all over her then you run the risk of putting her off and make her feel overwhelmed by it all. People are all very different and I can understand that you are feeling at a bit of a loss, only you know the best way to approach your wife, but as I said honesty and talking are the best approach. If she really doesn't want it though you must respect her wish.
So everyone i talked to my wife about my desires to try this as part of our relationship. I also asked her to read the article on gweninlove.com that @ineverknew shared with us. She then informed me she read itthis morning and she said she is willing to give it a try to see if it works for us. I am ready for this journey to begin we are gonna start looking for a device this weekend. Any recomendations? I need somethis that wont get hot as i work in a foundry and work with molten iron. Also i think i would prefer one without the padlock and instead the stealtg lock
congratulations! I would recommend you read this article on how to measure yourself for a device. https://malechastityjournal.com/living-with-chastity/getting-a-good-fit/ Then look around at your options for the sizes that will fit you. amazon.com and dhgate.com make some very reasonably priced devices. Most these days come with the integrated lock already. I would recommend something made of steel and with an open design. This will be more comfortable and less smelly for wearing throughout the day. Open designs also helps the skin breath during the day especially with your type of work. Another piece of advice. I'm sure you've been thinking and fantasizing about chastity for some time and now your wife knows. She doesnt know what thoughts you have so just play it cool and don't throw a bunch of information at her. Let her discover what chastity is all on her own without constant input from you. Trust me it should work better this way. Show her daily how much you appreciate her going along and playing. Show her your serious and follow her lead. Good luck.
Hello from Wisconsin, there aren’t too many of us here and welcome. https://www.chastitymansion.com/forums/index.php?threads/cage-advice-for-beginners-my-opinion.24945/ Just a thread I made to help with picking a cage right away. Hope it helps.