I tend to get a little cranky/moody when my Goddess doesn't give me the attention I think I deserve. I know it is not about me, right, but one cannot help their feelings. I felt like that this morning - waking up to my 7th day locked up without it coming out of its cage. My Goddess sensed my moody feelings when she sprung out of bed to start her day and instead of giving her a parting kiss, I rolled over and gave her the cold shoulder. Well she was having none of it. She said, "You seem to be on the edge honey." "It's is hard sometimes," I replied. She responded with a sympathetic, "I know honey, but I think you need to put in your plug in and take the 6 thwacks you owe me right now." After her swift and stern discipline I felt much better. She cared for me. She knew what I needed. Instead of internalizing the guilt I was trying to make her feel, she took compassion on me and thwacked me back into the obedient, loving, selfless husband chastity has helped mold me into. Thank you Goddess.
You have a brilliant Goddess, and you should be happy and proud of that. So many Dominants take the moral high road and feel sorry for their whining Slaves and give then pleasure; when in reality all they need is an attitude adjustment, and to be sent on their way. Thank you for posting! G
I, as a newer keyholder, have struggled with feeling sorry for my slave. I found myself giving in to his wants. But I will definitely be more assertive. Thanks for the encouragement.
Being assertive is one thing. But as a care giver to your Slave, you'll always have to find the line between needs and wants. You will be told about the wants all of the time, but the needs can be harder to spot; things like chafing, razor burn, or a UTI can all be handled easily if you are a caring Dominant and are attentive to their "needs". Their wants should be make you happy, and to stop obsessing about their cage. When in doubt; you can find a plethora of information on this and other sites, or just ask. My metaphorical door is always open. G
I've needed the attitude thwacked out of me a few times, unfortunately Mistress Wolf is not a corporal punishment type. She has checked my attitude verbally, and I work hard to adjust it, but a thorough Thwacking would get to the point so much faster!
I find it works quite well. Why waste time in verbal exchanges when a swift paddling ends the discussion.
Received 10 thwacks yesterday for being a slight defiant on Friday . KH was being generous didn't put her full force into it.
Very well and aptly put Ma'am. I've long understood that when the paddle comes out, the discussion ends...the only discussion taking place will be between the hardwood and my bare, upturned bottom!
This has become the normal way of dealing with anything I do that she doesn't approve of. It's over the bench and a very hard spanking till tears are rolling down my cheeks. She has helped me to be a much better person by disciplining me when I deserve it