Tips for newbies to chastity (Keyholder question)

If they are truly submissive to you tell them how long they have to be in chastity; but deny them a cage. Your word should be enough. Don't give them everything they want or expect. You set the agenda

 

Welcome the mansion. Chastity is a journey that both sides need to go on if it is to work both. We are all a bit different in our needs and expectations so each circumstance will have its own challenges and needs. So long as the journey works for both sides, it can be fun and rewarding..... But there is no once size fits all, either in terms of devices or emotional connections!

 

So, one limit you can establish is what you're comfortable topping for. If none of these guys have been clocked before, I'd suggest the first time being for however long you're willing to communicate with them through their initial self-locking. Have them do mundane things that will likely keep them flaccid: walk around, try some exercises or stretches, and just have them move around to see how and if there's going to be an issue with the device fitting. Once you're done, they're unlocked.

If it works okay, your second "date" could be a tease and denial session. That will give you both a chance to see how comfortable the cage is for them when there's tumescence involved.

If all is still good, you could move into a work-day (8-9 hours), then all day, then sleeping in it, then a weekend, etc. If things go wrong at some point, just revert back tondo engage in the duration and activities from when it last felt good, which will give you something positive to play with while you two try to find out what went wrong with that recent attempt.

 

You should start slow, few hours in the beginning as finding the right cage is not easy. The top time for me is 7 hours and i had tried 8 cages for now, some dont even fit as being to small, i started with the cb6000 as it was more or less large enough with it 10 cm but after a hard figth to put it on it was so narrow and small that i cant even piss. So dont expect the first try will be the one he can wear for months

I am trying to 3d print my own cage as i am tired of trying cage after cage, the one that fits me and i can more or less wear is really heavy and have a lot of inertia, not to mention is not very stealth as it is a big cage

And be prepared to desillusion, many will be afraid and run soon, it is not your fault, for many this is only fapping material, when it becomes real they starts to sweat and have seconds thoughs about if it was a good idea

 

Welcome to the Mansion LaPrincesaOscura

 

Yes, i plan to upload the files to anyone who wants to try it, thats counting i can make the design i want which it is not the usual way

It this kind of design as i think it is the one will work with me

 

loving that cage!

 

My Mistress (@Destiny103181) and I are in a long distance relationship right now. We started chastity away from each other and we jumped in too fast. It wasn't the fitting of my device, it was that I wasn't ready mentally. We took a couple months off and now I am locked again and it is great. We established rules to follow so we can head off any problems that might arise.

As for games, before she owned my cock and orgasms, I would tribute her by cumming on pictures of her. So when locked, she had me print out all of the pics I have, I set up one every morning. She has chosen a picture as my jackpot, if I choose the right picture, she has me unlock and tribute her on cam for her, then lock back up. It is a lot of fun because I never know when I will be cumming and I have a lot of pictures of her too!!

Good luck and welcome to CM.

 

Welcome to our community. I agree that you should try shorter sessions with them at first. It does take time to find the right fit for a cage and to adjust to it. Even the mental aspect of sleeping with it on, may take time. Still it is a good way for you to exercise your control by specifying how long or what they may do. good luck and enjoy.

 

Good Evening! (Not sure why this posted the way it did so I’ll try again)

great questions: there are safety questions and practical questions and kink questions.

I highly recommend you look at British Mistress Angelica’s videos on YouTube

she recommends the stainless steel version of the CB series cock cages for intitial play ($50 on Amazon); and having worn every cheap cage out there I would say she is right on the money: they only make two ring sizes tho in the stainless. Another worthwhile cheap brand is Ternance.

quick reference guide:

I like using an educational disciplinary model called: “progressive intervention” as a baseline: we go deeper over time; progressively longer over time. For the Endorphins to work appropriately, to get the body high: tell them up front the goal in 2-3 months is to go 14 days and beyond so they can feel that energy in their body. It’s an amazing high. Incredibly bonding subspace as well.

Note 1) avoid the temptation of giving them control over their penis!

step one: shaving; gotta shave; takes weeks for the skin to toughen up so the new hair doesn’t cause rashes. Make this fun and sexy and make it get them even more excited about chastity.

Step two: have them practice wearing it first for 24 hours: take it off and check your penis for abrasions: use “Aquiphor” on abrasions. Make sure blood flow is good. A steel device feels for comfortable. I completely agree this should be filmed or cammed so you have complete control. I will tell You that it will fall apart for them if you don’t maintain complete control of the change outs. So best to have them film it and file share it with you. They won’t know what you check on or not in the film.

Note 2) use plastic numbered medical grade locks for distance training: when they put a new serial number lock on, have them brand their leg with a sharpie with the date and time and send a pic of that with cage on and the serial number visible. Or can use steel locks and keys: there are ways to encase and date those so they are tamper resistant.

Step 3: move to a 2.5 to 3 day lock up. Friday night to Monday morning. Repeat the check and clean process. Play or tease or edge and deny or do the chastity spin the wheel game. The dice roll game; whatever. Talk to them, evaluate. Decide who won’t make it three more days and who might and allow releases accordingly. Sometimes prostate milked in cage, sometimes master bating like a girl in the cage,

note 3) Freak outs and whiners are showing up. Demands for the kink they want; they disappear on you.

this is where lines need to be drawn and seduction rules the day. Don’t fight to keep em-most are leaving sometime between their first orgasm and not making it to Day 14 by month 2-3.

recommendation: HIGHLY recommend using some hypnosis files on them to relax them. In particular 3 artists: GODDESS Kasha Shakti (she got her millionaire and is gone whoosh); next a file called: “I need chastity” by VIVE hypnosis. And Aurelia Alder and Princess Fae on YouTube. There are others. Goddess Gracie limp clitty hypnosis training files are good. This will create Acceptance and calm them down.

NOTE 4). A quick tease is easy and can pay huge dividends or create unresolved lustful stress.

I will tell you: he may look calm the day he locks, he’s not.

Lol

have fun