Self piercing. Stupidity or brilliance?

I like the route you've taken after researching frenum piercings a little. It seems like a practical approach for a number of reasons. And tne devices BAWR offers look appealing.

How long is the healing process? What gauge barbell did you start with? Is their a process to go thru to "gauge up"? If so, how long do you expect that to take?

I've never had a piercing before but after looking closely at the clamp you bought, I think I now understand what you did with leaving the clamp in place and attaching the barbell. That's funny when you read about someone else who's done that, but it's something I would very easily have done myself and I would have kicked myself in that moment.

 

Maybe. Maybe not.

But piercing one’s penis is a very serious step in their life journey.

 

Regarding pushing the barbell through the clamp: Been there done that.

 

How long do you think it will be before you know if it's going to "migrate"? Do you think the piercing could migrate after you've started using the cage with the frenum hook, possibly because of the stress it puts on the piercing? I would imagine it will be difficult to get the location of the hook just right. This adds another wrinkle to your cage measurements. Who knew it could be so complex?!?!

Which model did you order?

 

Yeah but at least it is safer than castration right?

 

You are right. But I think one should wear chastity even if he is committed because wearing chastity is not only to prevent erection but also as a symbol of submissiveness.

 

Your a much braver man than I! Glad it all worked out for you to.

 

I had a friend who was serious about castrating her subby hubby. She sort of flaked on me and I haven't heard from her so don't know if they ever did it. But it really make me cringe when she'd talk about it. So not only is it a hard limit, I don't even like hearing the word!!!

That said, I'm turned on by nipple and genital piercings. So go figure.

 

I've desperately wanted a PA for as long as I can remember, I've thrown it into conversation with my wife a few times and the response hasn't been positive so I don't pursue it . She isn't fully on board with my chastity so I guess a PA is a bit to far for her think of as a positive.

however I'm now at the stage of life (53) when I'm tired of suppressing those feelings. It's me , along with chastity and being submissive it's at the core of who I am . I am considering getting it done , if we give it a go and a year down the line she hates it then I guess I can take it out and at least have the comfort of knowing I've tried it . I need to be true to myself as well as my wife. Incidentally I'm pretty certain she will love it .

 

Personally I wouldn’t do it until she’s on board. But that’s just me.
I’d back off, give her some time then briefly mention it. Back off again, then plant a seed, let it go a bit.

People are funny but they change and if you push they’ll be against things. Back off and let the mind process and many times they’ll but in.

 

Probably good advice but I know what we are both like , neither one of us like's awkward conversations, we both find it easier to put awkward stuff to the back of our minds rather than think about these things.

she accepts my chastity and says she loves how it makes me feel but has been an active keyholder probably because it's easier to just let me get on with it , that way she doesn't have to worry about what to do. I'm 53 I've suppressed these feelings for nearly 40 years . I'm done with suppressing them. They are what makes me me. I don't doubt our love for each other is strong enough to get past a piercing.

it's a much cheaper mid life crisis thing than a sports car or motorbike and as I'm locked 24/7 she certainly doesn't have to worry about me being unfaithful.