Personality changes and other aspects of life?

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    #1 Shellysboytoy, May 12, 2022
    I was wondering if anyone's ever noticed personality changes in themselves or their partner apart from the chastity?

    Here's an anecdote as an example. We were all getting ready for the day this morning when this conversation between my oldest, wife and I occurred:

    Me to my 12 yr old: Do you need to make a lunch for school today?

    Child: No, I'm just going to buy lunch.

    Wife (out of nowhere and with that voice): You did not ask permission. Do you want to try that again?

    Me: (freezes trying to hide from a T-Rex with a sense of dread in my stomach)

    Child: "okay, can I buy my lunch today at school please?"

    Wife (Still using that voice): No!

    Wife walks out of her room. I'm still not moving. My son looks surprised. He turns to me and says, "Everything okay with Mom?"

    Almost this exact conversation took place between my wife and I last night after the kids had gone to bed. Different topic same outcome.

    Is it possible that my wife is becoming more assertive outside of the bedroom as she takes control in the bedroom? Or are things just hitting differently because I'm so amped up?
     
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    #2 Giles_English, May 13, 2022
    We've noticed this too. I think the experience of being obeyed turns into a self-fulfilling expectation. My wife was always assertive, but now she takes absolutely no crap from anybody. The dominant streak was likely already there, but hidden behind a wall of "be nice".
     
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    #3 WannaBsub, Jun 2, 2022
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    Wow... This topic is great. I would love to hear more experiences.

    From me, I am still free (don't own a cage) my wife is fairly dominant in our relationship, but we r very vanilla.
    I am the more kinky one, and lately I have started to be fascinated with chastity...
    Even confessed about it to my wife, which in response said she already know this about me.
    We have had a long and genuine conversation about it, which totally made my cock rock hard.
    We ended up agreeing that she will tease me more and touch me without her needing to an orgasm and after every time I will kiss her feet...
    Ever since I can't stop thinking about it.
    Automatically I find myself doing everything she asks when she asks (unlike before) also, spontaneously I give her back massage and more...
    On her side, I got the feeling like she is becoming more demanding on me. If I delay with her request she raise her voice super quickly to which I find myself obay and become aroused.
    Today at lunch, I did everything, we sat down she poured herself a glass of water and closed the bottle, until today she always filled my glass as well...

    I might be connecting thing that I shouldn't, but I can't stop thinking about it...

    Another day she gave me a hand job, she started dirty talking that she is going to lock my cock in a cage and put the key on her neck etc. I came so fast it was crazy!

    Now I am scared with the path we r going to, but I am too horny and submissive to stop it. All I can think about is licking her pussy and kissing her feet and ass...

    I'm gone!
     
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    #4 true42, Jun 2, 2022
    Yup. Your days as a free man are behind you, friend.

    The good news is that you're going to really enjoy what lies in front of you.
     
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    #5 WannaBsub, Jun 2, 2022
    @true42 she have just gave me another hand job after I really requested...
    During this she told me this is the last time I am going to cum until Sunday, when we will have sex. I am forbidden to touch myself and I will have to ask her for permission which she already said she will not let me until Sunday...
    OMG omg omg omg I came so harddd
     
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    #6 Shellysboytoy, Jun 2, 2022
    Hey @WannaBsub !

    My wife has continued to assume this role more. I'd say she has total control of our sex life at this point. We went on a great anniversary date. She told me what she wanted when we got back to the hotel and I made it happen!

    Outside of the bedroom she continues to be more assertive, but in a tame way. For example, as I was walking out this morning I poured myself a cup of coffee. She took it out of my and said, "I'd like you to always pour me a cup of coffee before you get some for yourself." She made a request not a command. This is kind of her style. She doesn't command because she knows I want to make her happy. Also, on our date she THANKED me for pushing her to communicate her desires. She is a manager at work and she told me that things are running more smoothly just by her being more explicit about her expectations.

    Finally, congratulations on the great entry into this! As someone who has been into this for around 8 weeks with the last 6 being 24/7, please let me also be real for a second. There will be a time where you sit straight up in your bed in the middle of the night with your cock throbbing in your cage. you will be miserable. It will be 5+ days since your last erection. AND YOU WILL PANIC!!! At that point, if you continue, it stops being a kink and starts being a lifestyle. I wouldn't go back to our old lifestyle if my wife would let me, but there are days that are difficult.

    P.S. I really wasn't prepared to be denied erections! That is still fucking me up! To be sexually aroused with no physical sensation is unsettling (maybe a little pressure). I am way more comfortable giving up my orgasms. I've started to enjoy pain. Not a kink I have enjoyed in the past, but grateful my wife will indulge that.
    P.S.S. Once you have a cage that fits well and you start going 24/7, sleep with an icepack nearby for the first week. It helps with the random attempted erections in the middle of the nights. Just don't leave it on too long.
     
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    #7 mcfeely, Jun 2, 2022
    I LET my wife make most of the minor day to day decisions and she does a great job with most decisions being similar to what I would have done anyway and sometimes better. However she knows that when I feel strongly enough to "give input" that is how it is going to be without question or argument. If she behaved the way shellyboytoy describes there would be serious hell to pay. Being a bitch is just unacceptable behavior and what kind of lesson is his son going to learn, what kind of man is he going to grow up to be? With her as an example why would he ever want to associate with a female?
     
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    #8 Shellysboytoy, Jun 2, 2022
    You have totally misread the situation. And you kind of look like an ass in the process. If you'd seen anything over the last 20 years of our relationship you would know what little things like a cup of coffee first meant.

    Yes she has become more assertive but that doesn't make her a bitch, and how dare you insult my wife in that manner. Over the course of our relationship she has always put her desires second, and that's led our relationship into some pretty ugly places at times.

    As far as my children go, again you have read into things way too far. What my children see is a strong male role model who takes care of his wife and family. Interactions they see are are public and not a glimpse into our private life. If anything, over the last two decades they've seen their dad steamroll their mom.

    You have spoken out of ignorance and made this very personal. Take a moment and reflect on the fact that you have summed up an entire families existence based on couple of posts, and then feel shame.
     
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    #9 WannaBsub, Jun 3, 2022
    1. dude wtf?! It's supposed to be a judgment free zone!
    2. You completely misread the situation, I think @Shellysboytoy made a valid point on a specific situation and I very much appreciate him sharing! I think such behavior change is HOT when it is starting to leak outside of the bedroom...
    Our objective in life and in relationships is to make each other better, which I think they do very well...

    And last... If you don't have something good to say, don't say anything and save us the time...
     
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    #10 Andy88, Jun 3, 2022
    The male chastity is not a gospel.. theres no right or wrong.. no one can claim authority and all knowing from it either… i have just tried to elaborate in another post..
    ok, for the last 15 years, me and wife have practised the male chastity in phrases.. what has happened to us thus far..? Theres flr, power exchange into her hands, i becoming house husband, i have been locked 24/7, theres no piv, theres lots of oral pleasure for her, she has sexual freedom, im still as male as one can see albeit dressing in more flamboyant colours.. i still get to enjoy my stuffs, i make terrific coffee, i ride a harley and i go to the gym… anyone want to say im not doing it right..?
     
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    #11 DonnaSue, Jun 3, 2022
    For the first 30 years of our marriage, my wife was very vanilla and meek. Then came menopause and the discovery of my panty fetish and She began to become more assertive (and I became more submissive). For the past 7 years, She has grown in Her assertiveness and I in my submissivness. Today, our FLR has brought our marriage to new heights - mostly because of how we have learned to communicate openly and honestly.
     
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    #12 WannaBsub, Jun 3, 2022
    @Andy88 and @DonnaSue, any specific situation from the beginning that you can share? I love reading these
     
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    #13 DonnaSue, Jun 3, 2022
    @WannaBsub , I had a lingerie fetish all of my life, which I kept secret from my wife. When She caught me in panties, She was not angry about my fetish, but the fact that I had kept it a secret. After a few months, and help from a counselor, She came home one day and dared me to go for a bra fitting! I didn;t realize it at the time, but it was a test of my resolve to explore my feminine side. After I came home from the fitting with 2 new bras, She began exploit my little dirty secret and to feminize me. That was a major change in our personalities (over time), our communications and our relationship.
     
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    #14 WannaBsub, Jun 3, 2022
    @DonnaSue wow that is so hot! Thanks for sharing ❤️
     
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    #15 Andy88, Jun 4, 2022
    Once your wife decides to lock you up, you are home free.. but to retain her prolonged interest in it.. theres much more effort.. start by remaining locked.. that should be your first nature.. until she feels its the time to unlock.. her calling, precisely… she will feel empowered and will be encouraged to take things (or the nature of your little caged dick) further..

    In the beginning of my lock-up sentence.. it was like 3weeks long.. from her fertile period to the next.. she would say “take it out dear..” thats her calling for sex… i would clean myself and prepare to lay her.. I would request her permission to ejaculate if that what she wants.. “of course dear i want your sperm..”.. she would say… there were times we took things easy at the advice of specialist to avoid conceiving after a miscarriage (ok, she had it once) just to ‘stabilise’ things.. so i either at her command ejaculate outside or abstain and retreat.. her calling again.. thats her body.. im only revering her choices and wishes…
    Wish you all the best…
     
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    #16 WannaBsub, Jun 4, 2022
    @Andy88 I love it! Thank you...
    I think there's a lot for me to learn from your experience! So thanks again
     
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