My lady does not like toys, or oral all that much. But, the issue is that I'll last about 30 seconds before coming. She says she likes the feel of me, not a strapon, but there is no way I'm pleasing her with my cock... Thoughts?
My wife was telling the same about strapon. I got a big strapon, the size she liked. I got a heater, to make it warm before sex. We used strapon for a while. She loves strapon now, she got aroused on seeing me 2ith strapon. Our keyholders - they are changing over time, I see it clearly now.
That’s treating a symptom not the root cause. If the goal is to continue to accept the dysfunction, numbing cream is the answer. If not…
I'm in the same boat. I last longer than 30 seconds, but not long enough to satisfy my wife to her full desire. I really want to satisfy her, and I want her to always be able to decide how long to fuck, i.e. I really don't want to cum when she wants me to still be fucking her. Here's my list of things that I do: * Foreplay, and lots of it. She won't let you use your mouth on her, but can you use your hands? * Positions matter. I can last MUCH longer with her riding me, for example. (Usually, I can completely avoid coming with her on top.) * If I get the sense that she's going to be wanting sex, I will put some numbing stuff on in advance. Unfortunately, I often don't figure out that she wants sex until it's too late to do this. * When I'm inside her, I focus really hard on pleasing her. I consider it my duty to make her cum at least once (and preferably more) from the PIV. This focus helps a little bit. * Certain things make me crazy, and fast. Like fondling her breasts while fucking. I may have everything under control, and then I put my hand on her breast, and 2 seconds later I'm shooting my load. (She has an amazing body. I can't help it.) So I try to remember which things have that effect on me, and avoid doing them. * Math. I do lots of math in my head. Seriously hard math. Calculus. Trig. Whatever.
Premature ejaculation should be something to celebrate for both of you coming out of a period of chastity, like mission accomplished on her part. If she wants a longer experience then later or next day later. I've been locked longer than I've ever experienced at 5 weeks. A PE would not hurt my feelings though. I think it would be good to see her property erect and functioning. I worry that I've not had an erection in that time. i would ask yourself is she ok with it because if, like me, you gave up your genitals willingly then you get what you deserve PE and all.
If you’re pleasing her in other ways and she’s enjoying that then what’s the problem? Your lady wants you to have sex with her regardless of how long it goes on for. It pleases her. It’s appears that you are unsatisfied by your performance.. You want the strapon. Put her needs first.
We play a lot of yahtzee before sex, so my normal routine is to add about 20 numbers together before sex. Calculating carry on figures get me so hyped.
I'm 6 weeks without cumming. I had ED badly before this chastity sentence. My mistress allowed me out of the cage overnight last night. This morning she lubed me up with coconut oil. It was hard for about 10 minutes or so it seemed to me, we both just waited a little awkwardly I suppose. I went down on her. After she came I raised myself up to missionary position, I was gentle but pushed until my erection was about an inch from her. She kind of came to and said no, I'm not having sex. I really put her on the spot, I could see her making the decision to deny her own desire. We waited until it was down and we both fitted the htv4 cage with the fiddly bar and keyholder seal. I've apologised and made it clear I've got a long way to go in not confusing the gift of being denied and under her control with thinking I'm allowed to orgasm when I want. She understood my human need to empty her balls and told me I'm doing well and the perfect candidate for chastity. <3. So my point is my sexual function has and is healing and chastity slavery aside that's one of the gifts my keyholder and beloved girlfriend has given me.
Nope. A urologist just gave me some vitamins and herbal meds to increase my libido and sexual power. It did improve but my hardness is not that hard to satisfy my wife. She needs a hard one.
If you have ED in your 30’s you need a better Urologist and numbing cream has nothing to do with helping you get hard. It’s used to delay ejaculation, which is poor way treating a symptom of PE.
Thanks for giving me hope. I will visit the urologist again. Numbing spray is not a treatment. It's just a quick fix. Also it takes away my pleasure. Which I like because it's all about her pleasure. I'm having hardness issues since my early twenties. In my teens I was hard as a diamond.