My situation changed. But still submissive to Lady Kim.

Just figured I would check in with you all and anyone who wants to comment, can.

About a month and a half ago I started driving a cab. I have a PhD in the humanities, so it makes sense, right? I couldn't see myself in a cage while driving drunk U.S. Marines to their base, so I didn't. That gig didn't work out so I am now doing landscaping, and I REALLY don't see myself caged while working with a shovel and power tools. But today there is no work and this weekend it is going to rain, so no work, and I see myself caged when my wife is at work. I feel it is important to be flexible.

Without going into a lot of details, so many things have been going badly in my life lately, and I was so miserable, that Mistress didn't have the heart to cage me or spank me, and I didn't have the heart for it either. So we had to put that on hold for awhile. I believe I have read several authors on FLR who acknowledge that a certain level of happiness in life must be there for submission to be fun and sustainable. Now of course it may not always be fun and that could be part of the growth process. However, it seems that if there is too much misery there may have to be a time out from intense submission. Anyone?

On another note, I was having problems with ED. So I got some Viagra and that stuff works wonders. However, I have noticed that even without taking Viagra or even horny goat weed and other natural supplements, the physical work I am doing produces AMAZING erections for the enjoyment of Mistress. I read somewhere that intense physical labor or working out in the gym increases testosterone to the point that ED can be reversed without medication. That seems to be the case for me. The irony is that I have a huge hard-on but I'm sometimes too tired to do anything about it! In that case, Mistress gets on top. Which is where I like her to be anyway.

My wife is such a kind, Vanilla Dominatrix. She will never go with another man without my approval (it hasn't happened yet and may never because we are both so selective) and when I am feeling too bad, there is no physical punishment. But when my mind is strong, I welcome her correction. I love it when she shows me who is the boss...it is so romantic and exciting!

I have a medium size penis and I am not ashamed of that. In fact, most men have a penis that is 4-6 inches. So we all should lament our fate? I think not. Most women can get a lot of satisfaction out of a medium size cock, and some can even work with a smaller than average member. I'm not in chastity for the sake of humiliation or orgasm denial or because my dick is not big enough, I am in chastity to prevent utterly useless and unproductive masturbation. MY PENIS BELONGS TO MISTRESS KIM.

Today My Queen will put me in chastity before she goes to work. And I will peacefully write my book. Happy Thanksgiving to all of my brothers in chastity, and to their beloved key-holders!

 

While my wife loves my ordinary-sized cock, I still fantasize about her taking a really big one. Once that fantasy takes hold it is difficult to set aside. I honestly think I fantasize about this much more than she does. Go figure.

 

Sounds like you two know what you are doing and are happy with your choices. One thing I have learned is that no two FLRs are the same! There are no rules except the rules made by the couple. Thanks for sharing!

 

The fantasy is mostly mine. She would go for it with the right person, just for the excitement, but she never would have brought it up or even thought about it all that much without my encouragement. We wouldn't want it with a stranger, and we would want it to be a friend that we love. We would want it to be a very beautiful thing.

Neither of us use the term "bull" because to us it implies an inferior status to me as a lover, and that is not at all what either of us want or feel. She is more than satisfied with me in bed. Yet she knows that if she mentions a desire for a really big penis that it turns me on, and so sometimes she does, and some day it may happen. But in our contract we both have the right to veto any outside partners. Although Lady Kim is my mistress, I do own her body as she owns mine. She is such a Vanilla Dominatrix that she even rims me occasionally!

But most of the time it is me rimming her and kissing her feet, etc, because this really turns me on. Another way that we both know that I am submissive is that the mere notion of male dominance over any woman TURNS MY STOMACH. Plus it is so passe and uninteresting. Now to be sure if we ever brought in a man for her to play with she may enjoy his dominance if he is actually able to pick her up and screw her while holding her in his arms--she is not light, so I can't do this. This would be wild and exciting and we would both get a kick out of this. However, first he would have to rim her as I do and address her as Mistress, and cheerfully accept being addressed by her as "boy." If he won't submit to my wife he isn't getting anywhere near her precious body.

We would appreciate this man having the physicality of a bull, but not the mentality. The dominance would be for play only. NO ONE mentally or emotionally or socially dominates Lady Kim!

 

Regarding penis size,I am dumbfounded that a guy with a penis 5-6 inches is worried that it is too small to satisfy a woman, when actually the average penis size is only slightly bigger than five inches. If it is thought that the average penis is too small for a woman's satisfaction, I find that absolutely absurd. I suppose this idea might be fun in itself, and to that I say fine, utilize such an idea in a fantasy. But to think it is actually true is a delusion, and not a healthy one either. I feel this is a very important point because the world is a miserable enough place as it is, and we don't need to make it more miserable by perpetuating lies about penis size! It could literally make a man suicidal. There is this:

http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/271647.php