My wife and I went 3.5 years before we took a break. Before then I was locked up all the time unless it was not practical like doctor visits especially when I was told to drop my pants and bend over and had to come up with an excuse (Diarrhea). When I say chastity I mostly mean locked up and denied orgasms for a few months at a time. We started up again two months ago after our break and I was denied an orgasm for almost 9 weeks. While denied and locked up I was horny all the time. Even a peek at my wife's cleavage was enough to arouse me. We had sex more and I always was trying to kiss and touch her. I chased her around the house and she giggled from all of the attention. I felt energized and alive. I thought of sex all the time and killed a lot of dead time looking at porn, most Tumblr Chastity sites. I was calmer and did not argue with my wife. My wife does like the way I am when denied orgasm but she has a problem in denying me for more than a few months. January 2nd, I had my last orgasm and decided to take a break. My wife first got sick and then I caught it from her. My insomnia was acting up and I was tired all the time and not feeling well as a result. I have noticed what I noticed the last time I took a break. I feel bored. I no longer find porn interesting. It is all just more of the same phony sex done for the camera most of the time. My wife bent over last night and when in chastity, that would stir my penis and last night it did not. In fact, we normally kiss and fondle each other before bedtime and we did not do that last night. I found out today that my wife tried out her new vibrator without me. Worst is that I am not horny all the time and sex is not on my mind 24/7 like it used to me. I lack energy and no longer have something to look forward too like you do when you are buying a new car or home and have to wait for it. I can lock up until Valentine's Day but my wife has not mentioned it despite my hints. I certainly do not want to lock up for my own pleasure so I am torn. I like not being locked up. I can urinate normally without the routine of cleaning myself and my cage afterwards which made it a chore. I can stand at the urinal now and not have to sit on a disgusting public toilet seat. I am not longer a little uncomfortable sitting on certain chairs or in certain positions. I am sleeping better and no more nighttime erections to wake me up. I also feel like urinating more when I am locked up. I think it is due to when I sit down and my cage/ring presses into my bladder area. So I no longer pee every hour. Sitting down is much more comfortable and no more burning sensations around my scrotum at times. My penis is hanging down normally and at its full flaccid length rather than trying to turtle inside my body. Most of all, my orgasms are better when I have them more often than when I have them after one month. It has always been that way with me. Sex is not as exciting as when I was edged over and over again and then denied. It now takes me longer to get erect and to orgasm. I also got into an argument the other night with my wife which I never do when caged and denied. My wife is correct. I get grumpy after an orgasm for some reason and feel sad. I looked that up and the sad part does occur in some men due to some hormonal thing. So there you have it. Chastity and non chastity both have their good and bad points. Right now I am enjoying my freedom but still hope that my wife will tell me to lock it up. I love chastity and hate it. It was different when we first started out when I was not locked up 24/7 and was not denied for longer then 2-3 weeks. Now after years of being denied 2-4 months at a time, it is losing its attraction and yet I am drawn to it. How about you. Do you Jekyll and Hyde?
I agree with you on the love/hate aspect of chastity. When I feel like I'm not getting any attention I don't like it very much and feel somewhat resentful of my situation and sometimes wish I had my freedom back. On the other hand whenever I am unlocked for a period of time I start to miss the cage and even feel like the femdom dies out a bit when she knows it's not on. That's probably just all in my head but it definitely effects me and my mood negatively. I may feel differently when we're as far along as you and your wife are with chastity play. One of the things that had me going back and forth on chastity is the lack of real teasing from my mistress. Sometimes I feel alone because of the lack of attention. Granted we have so much going on in our lives right now it makes it impossible to really set any time aside for ourselves to do such things. We have also been trading colds for the last month as well so that has put a damper on our playtime too. Usually when I start to feel a little resentful it's because of reasons that are out of our control and I'm just being a baby about it. Currently we've surpasses 3 weeks with no orgasms for either of us. Unless she's had a little self play that I don't know about but I doubt it. Since I was feeling a little lonely lately I did have a little play time the last couple of nights with one of my larger plugs. I'm not sure if that gave me any relief or just made me hornier!