Ok, courage plucked up - Check Shared slightly odd kink with SO - Check Initial shock over now chatting about it - check Explain in detail I want to be a sub, a slave, subjugated - check Eventually she is on-board with being in charge - check She's getting used to calling the shots - check Feeling quite happy with subservient role - check Her confidence continues to build -check Feeling more submissive and obedient now - check She gets her needs met on demand - check Mine are considered under advisement - check All feels good in our D/s world - check Try to talk her into letting me lick her boots - uncheck Negotiations on chastity release is now annoying her - uncheck I'm getting sulky because I want my needs met too - uncheck She starts to lose interest - uncheck I'm miserable because she doesn't pander to my needs - uncheck Have you ever considered that maybe you had it good once and due to impatience or lack of honesty somewhere, you kinda blew it? I was lucky, i had 30ish very great years in a FLR. Yes, sometimes bumps in the road occurred, but never lost sight of the core value. What i described above is quite common. I equate it to kneeling in front of her with an engagement ring held high towards her and just at the point she smiles and reaches for it, BANG! You slam it shut. A good FLR requires tons of emotional investment and twice that in honesty. It's also a long game lifestyle requiring remarkable resolve and patience. Why am I wring this? Well many ask me how this dynamic can succeed and/or fail. Simple answer; stick to the core value! Just make sure both of you share it.