I have been encouraging my wife to be dominant after a lifetime of submissiveness. She has come a long way in the last few months, occasionally ordering me about and not asking, but telling me to do the things she wants to do. She even will spank me if she is not pleased with my work although that has only happened twice since the threat of it is enough to make sure I do everything I am told, right. Today I told her that I am liking the person she is becoming and that I feel that she is holding back, afraid of making me mad or unhappy. She said that she was afraid of becoming a b*tch, something she does not like in other women. I told her that she was not that but rather dominant, which is different. I promised to tell her if I had a problem with her dominance and that seemed to make her feel better about it. The things she tells me to do are really nothing compared to some BDSM friends I know. She just tells me to get her things to eat and drink, clean up afterwards and give her a massage when requested. My chores are simple; take out the trash, wash the dishes after a meal, make my own bed and help her with the laundry. Hardly a model of a D/S relationship. She never asks me to do anything just to exert her control over me. No kneeling, no calling her Mistress, no acting like her body slave, etc.. Just things I would gladly do if she had just asked me anyways. It got me thinking of what is a b*tch and are their Mistresses out there that consider themselves one? To me a b*tch is a mean spirited woman who constantly tries to put you down and hurt you. Other than the dictionary definition of a b*tch, how do you define it and is it something you would like in your spouse?
The word Bitch turns me on. my Wife would hate to be considered a bitch. She is a genuinely nice person (thats why we are together) she just wants to be loving and kind. In the early days of our relationship I made the mistake of telling her if she was ever being a bitch and using that word has re-inforced it as a negative. I think most women grow up viewing the term bitch as a negative and so try to avoid doing anything that would make them bitches. Much like the derogatory term of 'cock teaser' which is so deeply ingrained in most women as a negative that they struggle with chastity. Maybe come up with a different term for the bitchy behaviour you are seeking from her,
Peter tough call on the name but you have the start. Don't rush her just enjoy and get her to realise how nice it is to have a slave a maid however you see yourself. Be very good to her and work out her title but devia is soooo good. Xx Wendy
being a bitch in a nasty way is bad, so is being a slut, but being a bitch in a naught erotic way, is gooood! my man calls me all sorts of things, but because he is doing it in a sexy way its not hurtful, more a turn on
Any wife/mistress that is Dominate To her Sissy ,Slave, Is not a bitch in a bad way, If a Dominate woman allows you to realize your dreams and Partake in them, Then she is a good bitch. Any sissy that has a partner that understands us, are the luckiest in the world, Were I see my wife and myself, She is a good bitch, Dominate and Humiluate me Bitch, I so love it and adore her.
Can see that point of view but not pilowbiters one. In gangster rap its always derogatory As I say very thin deviding line Xx wendy
This is something, like so many others connected with kinkdom... Everything depends on your own perspective. Bitches may be women seen as nasty and mean-spirited, as Peter suggests, or as a loving and erotic dominant, as MistressBitch suggests or... pretty much anything between the two. Like so many things, it is what you want it to be, and as such is difficult to pin down.
i think the crux of the matter is, that a woman is a bitch when she chooses to be a bitch, but do bear in mind gents, that that could change, and you wont necessarily know ......