Hi all, I’m new here, and hoping for some good advice I’m a 30 year old male who’s been into chastity for about a year. I own a chastity device that works very well for me (I’m 8.25” erect, and about 2” when soft, so it’s awesome to have a device that works). I’m married, however my wife isn’t very far along with the whole FLR/Male Chastity thing. She knows that I have a device and that I lock myself up, but that’s about it. Because of this I’m basically self regulating when it comes to chastity and orgasm denial. This makes it harder to keep on task. I do pretty well in general, I wear the device during the day, and take it off to sleep (wife lying next to me is good enough incentive not to masturbate). My big challenge though is temptation when I shower. I take the cage off to wash, and as a result this is the time of day that’s my “reward” an opportunity to have an erection, and to masturbate (not as far as edging). The challenge is that in this private environment it’s really easy for me to just give in and go all the way…. As a result I tend to have an orgasm in this way every 7 to 10 days. As an aside: This week I’ve been 8 days without orgasm, and last night I was masturbating in the bathroom, and accidentally got too close. I immediately took my hands off, but I’d got slightly too close. My penis went absolutely rock hard for about 10 seconds, before I dribbled a little bit. This is the first time that I’ve actually managed to have a proper ruined orgasm. No pleasure from it at all, and my penis stayed rock hard for about 10 minutes afterward, so it definitely wasn’t a proper ejaculation! Anyway, what I’m really after is some suggestions as to how to manage my shower time. I still want this time to be an opportunity that I can have an erection and tease myself with some masturbation, but I guess what I really need are some really good incentives to not let myself cum. Any suggestions would be much appreciated. Oh also: my wife and I only have PIV sex every 6 weeks or so, so that’s not a major source of orgasms for me. Thanks, Mark
My husband had this problem too. The shower was his best friend and not his wife. This is one reason I don't release him for a shower by himself. At times, I will handcuff him and wash him myself. It is a chore but pleasant when I'm in the mood, otherwise, most times he stays locked. The other times I watch him like a hawk. His penalty, 45 days and the cane. Suggestions? Have you tried taking a shower locked? Wash the best you can. You might also ask your wife to wash just your junk. http://pornaffliction.com/how-to-stop-masturbating-in-the-shower/ 1. Try to take shower in extremes of temperature, that is, extremely hot or extremely cold. For example, if the temperature in your washroom is around 3 degree centigrade you will not like to stay naked for a longer period of time. This will reduce your showering time and you will be less likely to stay naked in the act of masturbation. 2. Reduce your average time in taking showers: There is no harm in setting a stop watch on. Research has shown that five to seven minutes is enough to take a quick shower. When you’re a masturbation addict, you are likely to masturbate if your showers take longer than 5 to 7 minutes. 3. Do not soap your genital organs right away because once you touch them, you’re quite likely to think about masturbation already. You should clean your entire body first and clean your genital organs when you’re nearly done with your shower. 4. Do not touch your genital organs: If you have to clean them, it’s better to clean them using some rough cloth whose excessive use will be uncomfortable for you.
Thank you very much MistressL, I very much appreciate you taking the time to give me this advice. This is really helpful, the idea about waiting until the end of my shower to wash my genitals is a great one. I wish that I could get my wife to wash my genitals for me, unfortunately she's not into the whole idea of chastity enough yet for that. It's really hard, because on one hand I feel that chastity is about my sexual energy not being wasted on masturbation, but on the other she's not really interested in being involved at this point, and we have sex so infrequently anyway that it's very, very hard to not give into temptation. I think that I need to come up with some very motivating punishments as well. Tonight for example: I've been a bit unwell and off work for a couple of days, so I've been looking at a lot of porn in the last couple of days (while locked). I'm extremely horny and sore (I don't know if my balls have ever been this big before!) and now my wife has unexpectedly gone out for the evening, leaving me in the house by myself. Now at this point I'm still in my device, but with no keyholder, and only self will to go on it's going to be a struggle for me to resist letting myself have a cummy tonight....
Well I'm really disappointed in myself, I did end up cumming last night. Twice... I spent about 2 hours watching porn while locked up, and then decided that I wanted to go a bit further and have a little bit of fun while I watch more porn, so I took of the chastity device, put myself in a humbler and was getting ready with a candle to have some wax play, when the temptation of my penis being right there became too much and I jerked myself off. I did it again a few minutes later...... I'm really disappointed that all that hard work from the last week basically went to waste. Now I've got to start again.... And I need to decide what my punishment will be for last night. This would be a lot easier if I had a keyholder....
@MasterM0985 Such a strange name for a submissive, however, I feel your wife isn't too bothered what you do and the best advice I can offer is to purchase a time-lock safe. With your keys safely locked away from temptation, you will remain locked until the set time. There are ones available that can be set for months and months.