Did you so say no at first but then change her mind?

I can't speak to that specific arrangement, but I can relate my circumstances leading up to now.
About 20 years ago, I found out about male chastity devices and found myself obsessing about them, then constantly fantasizing about it. Being the handy sort I can be, I made one based on one I found online. I convinced the wife to hold the key, then F'd up by irritating her one night about releasing me so we could fool around.
Fast forward to about 5 months ago. After finding a good deal on a CB-6000 online, I approached my wife and asked her. She agreed to hold my key IF I promised not to irritate her to get out.
My previous record for being locked with her holding the key was 43 days. She made me remove it, masturbate for her and locked me back up.
I'm on day 96 right now and don't know when or if I'm getting out.
Not much of an explanation, but my experience. Perhaps the years softened her hatred for my tiny clit?

Jamie

 

The best thing you can do is listen to your fiancé and respect what she's asking. Don't push her on the subject of chastity. Many women get weirded out with the concept of chastity because they don't understand how chastity can be beneficial to your relationship.

When I first asked my wife to be my mistress, I tried to explain how this would make me obedient to her and I would be her sex slave. Chastity would make me do whatever she wanted etc etc... She said no. She said no because I didn't bother to really educate her about chastity I was just telling her about the parts that I liked and thought would be fun. About me being her chore and sex slave and she could keep my penis locked up until I did what she wanted me to.

She told me to let her think about it but I could tell she was uneasy on the idea. I didn't hear anything for a week so I finally asked again and that's when she said no. I was crushed and was thinking about other ways to bring it up to her and I searched sites like CM to get ideas. After much reading and research over those few days I decided to write her an email about why I wanted chastity and why I thought it would be good for us. I also ordered a book off of amazon called Male Chastity by Lucy Fairbourn.

When I'm really trying to explain something but can't verbalize what I want to say as well as I'd like I generally write it or email it. I much more articulate when I do. I wrote my wife an email being completely truthful and let her know that I masturbated and watched porn multiple times on a daily basis literally the whole time we'd been together (that's a long time). I told her I felt like our relationship was dying down and it was because of my nasty habits. I wanted to renew our relationship and try something new that we both could enjoy.

She was still unsure but was More on board once she knew about the porn and masturbation. The book arrived and she actually seemed very excited to read it. She went in the bedroom for an hour and read it cover to cover. When she came out of our room she had a smile on her face and told me she wanted to lock me up and for me to pick out a device.

Once I mostly made it clear that I wanted to do this as a major relationship enhancement for us she was much more willing to hear what I had to say. We've been practicing nearly 24/7 play for over a year now and it has been one of the best things we've ever done for each other.

So my advice to you would be to buy the book I mentioned above its fairly vanilla and will ease her into the idea of chastity and also write out your thoughts on why you think chastity would benefit you both. Try to leave out sexual benefits and focus more on how your listening and communication skills will be better enhanced and how you want to be more attentive to her needs versus your own. Good luck I really hope she changes her mind because it truly is a wonderful path to venture down

 

You have planted a seed it may grow. I'm thinking that she wants You, and doesn't like the thought of you being locked away. My girl on the other hand saw one in a photo and said that's what you need. Because I am a chronic masterbater. She wants all of my orgasms to be with her. And so did I.