Dating again

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    Hello,

    After a two year relationship single again.
    Took a few months to adjust then back to the fun of online dating again.
    Naturally the current global situation has not helped too much!

    As the previous relationship was very much female orientated with a lot of abstinence for myself.
    This means I think I am a bit smaller than the average male and certainly think I cannot perform certain acts.

    How does that then work in normal dating should things get physical, do I talk about why I can not "perform" or make up some excuse?

    How do people date?
     
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    I always tell them i'm submissive early on. I find it much better than falling in love, being invested then having 'the talk' I believe it is kinder and easier to get out early by being honest, than to wait till feelings develop and both be unfulfilled.
     
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    You can also try to please them in other ways, oral or manual stimulation. Not every woman is focused on a penis for pleasure. Make it more about her than yourself and that should help. Good luck.
     
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    Thank you all.

    I won't put up photos of the marks, its a little nasty looking.
    Hopefully it will get healed up as it is quite painful
    Then can try again!
     
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    Look on fetlifeand be sure to mention your sexual preferences. Stick to online dating websites that have a larger community of fetish oriented people, e.g. OKcupid and not Christianmingle.
     
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    you beat me to it! Was going to say the same thing!
     
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