I'm sure there are previous threads about this, but I'll ask anyway. What is the difference between being locked in a chastity device vs. voluntary "free-range chastity"? We've been practicing voluntary charity for the last two months. I've gone 9 days, 24 days, 8 days before being allowed release. I don't have a problem keeping my hands to myself and not masturbating or touching myself. So I don't need a cage to enforce the rules. I'm rather proud of that as someone who masturbated relentlessly before... So what else would come from being locked in a chastity device? What kind of experience am I missing? What is she missing? Make the case for us... Thanks.
Well, I would guess as voluntary means based on a mutual respect, but still would be able to controll and touch. As to being locked is to give up controll and touch. In my opinion, it's a totally different state of mind. ;-)
I assume this must come off as a stupid question, obviously there are countless threads about being locked. I was genuinely curious about the distinction between the two experiences.
It's about control from denial. There is nothing wrong with the honor system as long as the trust is there. However temptation could can overcome some people. When locked, even the though the temptation is there, there is nothing you can do about even if you wanted. This in turn leads to wonderful sexual frustration which over time causes behavior changes that turn to submissiveness once the realization sets in that your keyholder has complete control of your sex life. For my wife anyway, it adds an element of excitement by having absolute control and how she can use it any way she desires. She also likes the assurance of knowing that there is no way I will slip up. We have found that my my new behavior and attitude with her because of chastity has allowed our relationship to blossom.
my philosiphy is that the device just keeps me honest. Yes I could take my dremel and grind it off, but what fun would that be? lol I like knowing I really have no choice in the matter and its REALLY up to her.
For me, it removes temptation. I experienced non-locked denial periods up to 47 days prior to wearing a device. While it wasn't difficult to forgo orgasms for my wife, it became difficult to not edge myself when able. This was basically a result of extreme libido brought on by daily usage by my wife. Also, my wife and I both enjoy it, the D/S feelings it brings both of us, the way it enhances/solidifies our FLR. A combination of fun and practical reasons.