I am curious as to what rewards/pleasures the Keyholders and Mistresses achieve by placing their men in Chastity. As a man, I know the rewards I get from being chaste - the frustrations of not being able to orgasm and the love of the teasing. But I seem to be on the receiving end of the good stuff. The Keyholders and Mistresses are also denied intercourse. I know, I know, many times Tease & Denial and Chastity as foreplay lead to great sex, but what are the ones who don't ever allow the man to penetrate getting? Thanks in advance for your answers!
Oral sex, strapon sex, household chores done, ego boost, all the foreplay a person could want, better sex, sex whenever THEY want it.... there's a lot available if a woman is so inclined...
I think you should read Sarah Jameson's "Be careful what you wish for" a major focus of that book and some of her others extols the advantages to the KH of consenting to take control of their lover's orgasms. The major reason for men buying her books is to introduce their partners to TTTWD. There are other publications that will explain what the two sides of S&M or FD or FLRs which may also be of interest to you. SJ does cover these but not in as much depth as a practictioner would. She is into Male Chastity because her husband wanted her to explore it, she liked it and she lives the lifestyle. If the Key Holders were not getting as much or more as their partners out of male chastity and whatever that entails for them as a couple then I'm pretty sure that, this site and other like it and the whole industry of publications and both the manufacture and sale of devices would simply fade away. It is (or ought to be) the most prime concern of ALL of us, that are lucky enough to have a KH, that our wonderful, obliging and indulgent partners get a hell of a lot out keeping their partner in chastity.
My ex boyfriend introduced chastity to me, and while I liked locking him up and teasing him and him going down on me a lot and all that good stuff...it did play a part in our breakup. Him wanting too be locked too often, me wanting to have sex with him more often...it didn't work out. Maybe I am not dominant enough to be a KH for a boyfriend, because it interferes with my needs.
I love attention and having a clean and tidy house. By keeping a sissymaid in chastity both are guaranteed.
I Can relate to that . It is a concern of mine that my struggle to be denied as much as possible, eventually Will Lead to - not breakup - not cuckolding but her loosing - to some degree - her appetite for sex and release. Lack of penetration could be the driving force in her declining appetite. ( it has not happend yet -so maybe i simply worry to much? What do You Think? Strapon sex - Well we ARE not there det - but i Belgien we Will engage in that sport, - sooner or later. Sincerly BlueEyes
What an interesting thread and question. Firstly I think it depends if you live in the real world or a fantasy world... If you the male are demanding to locked in chastity all the time then you are topping the bottom. Your kh always has the control. If she wants her cock then you as the sub should and must oblidge. Because you are unlocked and she wants sex does not mean you are allowed to cum.... It is her choice. I am not kept in chastity but if and when I am allowed to come is up to Mistress Deborah. Happy new year. slave baby phil
My KH finds it hard to balance being a disciplinarian KH, a loving wife (ref: the beneficial relationship benefits that chastity brings and which is why we have a contract) and a red blooded woman who enjoys a big fat hot cock cum inside her. I on the other hand would like a little less latitude with being locked up. Nobody said MCL was easy on either party. It isn't, but like any real relationship, it's hard work which delivers commensurate rewards.
Exactly! - and that is the one thing that could turn things over. If she end up thinking she is giving something up at the Expense of fullfilling your desire for locking up.. One Way to prevent her from getting too frustrated is by constantly telling and showing her how much you want her, how much she turns You on, and how steaming hot ,sexy and erotic her every move and gesture is... It somehow makes her less craving for that kind of intimicy that only a throbbing cock inside her Can give. She acts more comfortable, knowing that she could have the cock inside her whenever, whereever she blinked. -and It is not hard to throw yourself at her feeet and devote my passion, cause its precisely how I feel. Lol! Sincerly BlueEyes