hi. i am new to this forum. my wife kind of tolerates my chastity fetish and desire for denial never really taking control and accepting my gift longest i have been locked is about 13 weeks but while i so desired to be locked and please her, she never really used me so i am looking for a women /goddess to domme me to deny me for long periods of time to use me as her toy or pet, cbt, pussy worship, toilet duties, entertaining her guests, forced bi etc, really serious lucypantyboy. northern beaches
Hi lucypantyboy, you are looking for a women / goddess to domme you. I was wondering what does your wife think about that?
i will work out that one when i get to it maybe she might take control maybe she might want also to be under the doms control
I don't know how long you have been at it, but from my experience and from talking to many other subs it can take a while for a wife who was living a vanilla life to grow into a domme. Please don't feel like I trying to lecture but I would caution against going to someone else before you have had a serious talk with your wife.
i know what you mean. i would prefer for my wife to grow. how long didit take your keyholder to get into it. and see the benefits. by the way your little lock up looks cute.
oh lucy, i wudnt do that if i was you, what if your wife dont like it. She may not want to dom you but i wud at least ask Her before you do anything.
Thanks for you kind words lucy. To answer your question, my wife is still getting into it. It took me a while to figure out that once I started to show her that being my KH was about me serving and worshiping her, and not about my own selfish need to fulfill my own fantasies she started to see the benefit. Jemima has a good point, please don't go elsewhere until you have had a conversation with your wife. I would ask that you don't lead with well I'm looking for someone else to domme me because...., in fact I wouldn't mention that at all. I don't know your wife but I'm pretty sure she will feel hurt and upset. I wonder though have you asked her what she would like out of this? If you feel she needs help getting into it, have you got her to read any books or websites on the subject? Elise Sutton has written a good book that talks about some of the concepts behind femdom and deals with some of the reasons why woman have so much trouble with femdom concepts. I'm sure there are many other good reads as well, and I'm sure that if you ask really really nicely there are some people here that might want to help. Good luck and keep us updated on how you go.
hi all thanks for your advice, though i think i have exhausted this strategy already and have given her stuff to read including Elise's and Lucy F book and that careful what you wish for. she sort of gets it, but not quite yet. i have even used those random date generators which randomly determine a period of denial. i think she doesnt get the idea of me serving and worship, and its benefit, and it only takes 2 secs to persuade her to unlock me etc... rather than saying no. she has also had recent life threatening surgery which has affected her will to life so to speak. she acts about 20 years older than she really is.