Strap on recommendations

First, the Vixen Creations folks make some of the best quality dildos on the market. The Vixskin line do not have the weird plastic smell, and are very lifelike. I would recommend looking on that website together to pick one out for her.

I would also recommended buying one without testicles if you are going to be "Foxing" her, that is wearing it yourself. The testicles can sit on top of the cage and be uncomfortable.

Also, buy a "two strap" style harness to wear instead of the thong style. The two straps will fit on either side of your cage, and will be more comfortable. I use the minimalist "Terra Firma" harness from Stockroom.com, but there are others similar.

Do not mix your foxing equipment with ones to be used by her on you. Your wife might prefer the support of a thong style harness. You may also want to start with a smaller dildo for her to use on you.

Part of the fun is picking them out together. Don't just surprise her with a porn star monster. Also, be aware that there can be some hot mental day if she picks one that is bigger than you.

I should also note that I have been locked off and on for most of our marriage, and permanently for the past 5 1/2 years. Our sex life is exclusively "Foxing" now and it has brought a huge spark back into our relationship.

 

I get that, which is why I suggested shopping with her.

"Honey, I know you told me to pick something out, but I ran across some that are more high end and I thought you should see these."

We bought some of the lower end ones at first. But maybe it's important to have a common one so you really can see the difference in quality.

 

If you're to be caged while wearing the strap on the make sure you get one like the crotch rocket by locked in lust that is made to not interfere with a chastity device.

If it's for her, it's going to be trial and error as to what she find is comfortable. One with a nice padded harness and something to help stimulate her while she wears it is a big bonus for her to want to use the strapon on you.

 

I can't comment on looking for one you'd use on her neither of us are into that although I have suggested it but she really doesn't miss PIV sex and I don't think it's a kink of mine. When we bought pegging dildos for me we did go all in and I'm not recommending that but it's been a lot of fun for us. One very long with a huge head, realistic but over-sized. It's heavy, hard to thrust with but realistic in an over-sized way. One which is wide and beaded but at least is easier to control for her, sticks out as if erect without pulling at the harness too much. Both relatively cheap on chinese websites. They are still a struggle to take as we do this rarely so no real reason to downsize. I'm into pain and I suppose would feel kind of weird getting comfortable with normal size and just enjoying it but we've stepped over that line already.

 

If you have never tried it before, My advice is to buy a cheap one first, just to see if you both like it in whatever way you are going to use it, and if you do, then start looking into the other more expensive options.

 

Vixen is best, we also have it. Is model with balls but if I have underwear on there is almost no discomfort - cage wise.
5 years permanent? Unlocked for shaving/cleaning or true 24/7?

 

First, get the idea out of your mind that there is "true" anything with regard to this. I unlock for hygiene, and for travel & medical reasons. I am never unlocked for anything sexual.

Here's a blog post that will help give you some perspective.

 

+1 for VixSkin; we have a Buck & whilst her feedback hasn't been too specific "I can just tell" that she *thoroughly* enjoys it ... I'm average sized & this is bigger, but not intimidating - I think she just doesn't want to hurt my feelings

For my harness we bought one with two holes, my cage pokes out of the lower one for her additional amusement ...

 

^ SpareParts Deuce

for her harness we have an Aslan leather.

as Tom wisely says, we keep both sets completely separate for health & hygiene.

 

We have many strapons, both for me to wear and for my wife to wear. First, these can't be mixed. I wear a big strapon, 10". My wife like to be satisfied with a big size. Naturally, I am locked while wearing a strapon. So, there are two straps on my design, to place the cage in between. On the contrary, strapons my wife wearing for pegging me are small - about 1" thick and maybe max 6" long. Also, her harness is a lot smaller. One of her strapons has insert into her pussy.
So, I assume, you need two strapons. Start gradually.

 

Can just imagine you with your little dicklette in its cage and wielding a 10" shlong over it and flapping it in front of you all manly like showing wifey how much of a stud you are but also knowing you have an important job to do.

Thanks for sharing Dmitry.

 

My wife and I have harnesses from Rodeoh. Mine are like biking shorts and hers are panty style. We have a Vikskin Maverick for her and a slimmer device for me.

We like the Rodeoh harnesses because of how comfortable they are and they hold things where they belong. I’m in the HT Nub so I do t have things in the way either. I do, however, have to be careful or the light ‘bumping’ I feel and listening to the sounds she makes is enough that I’ve orgasmed from that alone.

 

This is the harness we use, it’s very cheap but it’s been working for the last two years. We each have one, if you were to buy one, go smaller than you think you need, we both use the XS and it’s a little big on my Wife, and fits me a little tight and I’m like a 33-34 waist. It has a little pocket inside for a bullet vibe too.
We just bought a Pleasure Tailor Triarx, it’s a triple density dildo, we didn’t customize it at all. My Wife likes it but she only likes to have strap on piv once in a while, she did say we should’ve customized it to have a less pronounced ridge just under the head of the dildo. She says it’s a little uncomfortable for her upon entry and withdrawal, but once in, she really likes the feel of the dildo overall. I also wrap it in a hot washcloth inside a heating pad for a while before we play, makes a huge difference for her.
For me, we have a couple SquarePegToys cocks, the Steve model is great, rubs the prostate very well, we bought the Steve 2X also, but I’m still working on taking that before using it in a harness.

We’ve tried a couple other strappy harnesses but they just annoyed my Wife lol

 

best "inexpensive" harness ma'am uses is a Spareparts Joque harness. it is adjustable and as you will find out a tight fit is highly recommended for sex. aside from that, they do last a long time when properly taken care of. we didn't follow that advice on the first one. hahahaha