Is security that important

No device is full proof. You just don't do what she tells you not to do. It's fairly simple. That is how my relationship works.

 

That's great!

What type of device (material) do you have and what type of lock?

 

That's definitely the objective in our relationship and marriage too. But every once in a long while, the temptation to take matters into my own hands gets really, really strong. If I could easily slip out and back in without her knowing it, I'd probably go for it. But the shame and guilt afterwards and the subsequent "drop" would be devastating to me. Then the temptation to cheat again would become strong to soothe the pain and the addictive cycle would start again.

The security of my device makes it foo burdensome for me to cheat. It's not fool proof. But enough to stop me in my tracks. Its like a guardrail along the side of the road that keeps you from going over the edge. The bigger the cliff, the sturdier the guardrail you want. I was on the brink of losing control a week ago and am now grateful I had the guardrail in place even though I haven't needed it for a long time. And stopping erections from happening prevents temptation from coming along as often.

 

Security is very important to my wife. In addition to the small padlock, she has drilled my cage and is able to place security tags on it. There's no way to remove the cage without breaking her tag to slide it off. She keeps the tag number in her phone and will check the number against my tag at will.

I probably could pull out but, I don't think I could get back in. I have not and do not want to ever try. I asked for MC and to be her submissive. Pulling out to me would be cheating.

Plus, if I got caught, the ass beating I would get would not be worth the few seconds of pumping!

 

It’s a stainless cage with a burg lock. Only one key that she keeps locked up safely.

 

It looks like Burg Wachter makes padlocks and internal locks. The former can be cut off with bolt cutters; the latter, not so much.

 

Burg style barrels only have a handful of different keys and sometimes even different keys are close enough to open the lock. I tested my Burg branded lock with the keys of a few other cages I have and sure enough out of 3 devices, one key opened the lock (but the second key didn't, I'm guessing production variation).

 

So true. There is such an abundance of "flexing" on this site. "I stay locked longer than you..." My device is more inescapable than fort knox" ..."I haven't come in 37 years..." "My KH controls me 24/7/365".

It's kind of amusing and exhausting at the same time.

 

This subject always descends into a dick waving contest. If you feel the need of a full belt, good on ya. If a PA makes it real for you, excellent... get one. Just don't judge others.

I do not cheat, and I can pull out. Or just grab the key from the bedside table and go at it. However, I could not get away with it as she knows the level of arousal I should be at depending on when she last allowed a release.

Anyway, I've no desire to cheat in the first few days, when I might actually get away with it. And, when I do get that horny, I couldn't hide the drop if I cheated.

The presence of the cage is hugely symbolic, but also the mental affects of a suppressed erection and what it means in terms of the commitments I have made helps focus away from temptation. Watching porn won't help.

 

A chastity device is really a symbol of submission to your key holder.

Any device can be escaped by destroying it. So really device security is just a measure of how easily you can cheat on your key holder without them finding out.

In theory even if you can't pull out of the device there are still ways to cum. There's vibrators on the device or prostate play, I haven't tried either because my key holder tells me I'm not allowed to cum. Plus she dose't like vibrators so we haven't got any

Like Jay said, she would totally notice if I was suddenly less horny or able to last more than a few seconds when she does allow me.

 

Is it a blokey thing? It does seem to me that some guys start to value the tool more than what the tool is supposed to achieve. Like a couple of guys I know who are so obsessed with the quality of their hi-fi system that it gets in the way of them actually enjoying the music.

 

Yes, it's the disapppoinment I saw on my KH's face once when I cheated the system. She was legitimately hurt and upset. Since then I just do what I am told. And I almost gaurantee that my KH would be the most brutal anyone would experience. I have been in the lifestyle 20 years and never ran into someone so ruthless.

 

Same here!
In my Behind Bars belt I had to let them drill a hole in the central nut bolt witch holds the hannibal2 cage. My wife/mistress can now seal the whole belt with a seal. I first had a few steel seals with a 1mm steel cable. (See picture left). They were easy to cheat on with a simple cutting tool. I could then use them again. Now I have 1,8mm thick steel wires. (picture right) To cut them you need a more serious piece of cutting tool and a lot more of force. When you cut them now the steel wire splits and is not useable again.



Maybe I can pull out, I don't know and I don't wanna try. When I could be out of the cage, I don't think I could get it right in the cage again.... And then I have some explaining to do.

 

Not sure I can envision what this is. Can you clarify, please?

 

Maybe this clarify it all I think?

 

a bit. yes. ty. What kind of cage is that?

 

This is a Behind Bars belt with a Hannibal 2 cage. With a removeable cage mod, so you can lose the Hannibal 2 cage but you're locked member stays locked!

 

Nice set up. It's amazing hole drilling a small hole and adding a security tag really increases our cages security!

You have a great looking cage BTW.

 

Security for me would be nice to have however as I am the driving force to wear the cage, even though I can pull out wearing it is a reminder as to why I don't.
My wife would not want me to be wanking so wearing the cage helps me control myself.
Without the cage I would sneak one in whilst she is asleep next to me and then feel guilty. Sleeping with the cage now I cannot get away with it as easily. I have both keys but still remain caged and chaste.
When my cage last broke, I snuck a release in whilst she was having a sleep in, I then went and rebuilt my broken parts and have begun again.
Today while exercising my ball pulled through the ring. Lucky on this occasion I had my key and I was able refit my cage. This is the one part that I wish was more secure.
I could possibly remain chaste without the cage however part of it for me is knowing that I am locked up and that eventually I would love my wife to control and reduce my orgasms completely.

 

No matter how devoted we are, temptation is very strong, especially after a lengthy time chaste, so the combination of a very secure device and the threat of a serious ass whopping serve as excellent deterrents.

 

I'm a self locker and was surprised how easily my soapy penis almost slipped out of my Jail Bird, soon after beginning to wear it, so immediately ordered a 6 ga ring for my PA, which I hadn't worn jewelry in for years.

I have a spare key on my main key ring, but usually forget it is there, as I always unlock with a separate key on a different key ring.

I feel guilty not wearing the cage, though it seems some are motivated to prove nothing can truly lock them up or deny them pleasure. We each have our own kinks and motivations.

As a younger person I don't believe I could have been successful at self-locking, as I masturbated (to) often.

 

Gotta say folks, after accidentally having a ball drop yesterday doing an ass beating I received for not doing a good job taking out my wife's stitches without pain of her, i questioned the whole concept of chastity cages. In all ,my time, wearing 2 different MM cages, including a post on this from a few days ago that I thought they were inescapable, I actually believed it. By inescapable, I meant by not cutting or using tools on it. Now I know different, and have been wondering if I need to consider more drastic caging, including the urethral tubes or piercing, both of which I truly do not want to do. Because of this thread, I can just jigger a bit, and continue on as I am, because it is clear that it is symbolic of chastity and denial more than completely enforced chastity and denial . Enforced not erections for sure, which is real and difficult . Thanks for all of the feedback. Saved me some $$ and some pain.