I’ve been in an FLR for several years now and couldn’t be happier. However, there are some things I miss on occasion. I’ve been pussy free for a while now and it looks like I will remain so for at least the rest of the year. I miss the feel of her pussy around my penis. I miss being able to have an erection. I miss being able to clean my cum from her pussy or asshole. And of course I miss blowjobs and handjobs too. And although I miss these things, I know that chastity is right for us and our relationship.
Thanks for sharing and think your thoughts are very reasonable. I'm not in your situation, but would equally miss those things if it were to change. I'm assuming this was perhaps discussed as a potential option at some point? Any reasons, other than FLR/she's the boss, behind it?
She and I both knew things could turn out like this. She is a true Domme and from our very first date I was locked up. So I am happy to do what it takes to please her.
Wow that's for sharing, I am not in a relationship where I am denied at length especially PIV, ha d jobs or blow jobs , my wife and key holder enjoys playing with me , fortunately for me she doesn't care for dildos and she insists on me cumming inside her.. I wish you the best, but I would not care to be in your shoes
I would have created the same list... line for line. Nothing as great as an erection after a while in the cage... I really miss those more than I ever thought I could. The only other item I would add to the list is climbing atop of her and thrusting. Getting that erection and thrusting into her is so primal and I'm surprised by how much I miss it.
I agree with you. I miss reaching down and playing with myself, getting hard and then either masturbating or just letting it go soft. But, I really miss the blow jobs. In our younger days my Wife, now the key holder would go down on me and suck my cock and balls until I had a orgasm. Most of the time she would swallow my load. If I asked for a blowjob, she would do it. Now she will allow me to take my cage off, get hard and will tease me with a few licks and if I'm lucky, she will give each ball a little lick and suck. Let's me go soft and then back in the cage. I have beg her not to stop, just to feel her mouth going up and down my erection. But, she knows when to stop and has yet to allowed me to cum. I really miss the good old days...
I miss that too but oddly enough I also love that I am missing it and she controls when those things happen.
I miss all of that, what I miss the most is waking up with an erection and bending Her over and absolutely using Her pussy. No regard for Her pleasure at Al, just making Her my cum dumpster. Of course I’m also glad that I don’t treat Her that way anymore. I’m also embarrassed that I ever did. But yeah, sometimes I wish I could do that
Quickies. I miss them. You know the types you both didn’t realise you were in the mood for, just goes that way… But you know, how could you tell it was going to be enjoyable for both parties. At least this has less risk. Oh, and orgasms! No one seems to mention those
? What are those? Seriously though, I miss the control most (and that is exactly what she likes most). Not being able to control my emotions and being so much at someone's mercy...
Congratulations! I couldn't express it in a better way than how you have done it ! The miracle of chastity, apparently a most disadvantageous exchange that we so much enjoy!!
I miss the freedom to experience sexual pleasure at any time I desire it. As I strain against the cage thinking about this loss of freedom, I miss being able to have an erection. As that strain becomes greater, I miss being able to lube my hand and wrap it around the head of my penis. As that strain becomes almost unbearable, I miss my freedom to orgasm in this moment. I was reading a thread on how to train yourself to become a premature ejaculator. While that is something I have no desire to do, I realized I've lost the freedom to even attempt that. It mentioned that you start by timing yourself to see how long it takes to give yourself an orgasm with one finger and then repeating that process every other day until you can reach the point of orgasming without even touching yourself. I realized that I had lost the freedom to do it even once to see how long I could last. Now.... Enough of this thread.... I need to think about the fact that I have reached a place where I am giving my wife more sexual pleasure now than at any point in our 40+ years of marriage purely because I've given up my freedom to touch myself. Someday, I may just have an orgasm from thinking about that fact alone.
Yes, chastity and our WLM has stopped the things I enjoyed as a normal male. Giving up PIV sex, BJ's, HJ's, and wearing a cage is very fulfilling for me. I'm finally living my true submissive self. Maybe I was a closet submissive my entire life. Add on a sissy too! Both my wife and I could not be happier.
It has been so long since I've been allowed a full orgasm, I don't actually miss them much. I certainly don't miss the refractory period energetic & emotional drop. What I do really miss is being able to have an erection, to hold it and play with it. But like some others here have said, I do like that she has the power to not allow me to do these things. She reminds me, it is her property, not mine.
Wank naps, going for an afternoon snooze and emptying my balls before falling asleep nice and relaxed