I have a question for the vanilla women here. Does reading the posts on Chastity Mansion entice you to try more kink with your husband of bf? Has anyone changed from vanilla to kinky after being exposed to the kink here?
I'm too new here so I can't say that CM or threads here have made me more or less or different in any way, really. I will speak somewhat to becoming more kinky, though. In general, my vanilla friends would call me kinky and kinky friends would call me vanilla--I guess mostly I've been generally closer to vanilla. But my bf is my most kinky partner ever by a looooooong shot. His openness to talk about his likes and with enthusiasm without ever pushing me has built a lot of trust and feelings of safety with him. It probably doesn't hurt that I'm generally a very open-minded person. Anyway, I've done more with him than I ever knew I would be interested in. For me, the trust I have in him and how he treats me and what I want/need has been the reason for any shifts. Once he mentioned chastity though, I was really interested and have opened up to tell him things I want to do to him that I never realized before! But, again, the trust was in place, first. Maybe posts here will open that further, but that's to be seen.....
Some of us would call you French Vanilla! It’s a term we in the kink world use for someone who is slightly kinky but not totally vanilla. That said, congrats on finding a great partner. And as you know it doesn’t matter what anyone calls you, what matters is that you enjoy your life. That you feel safe and that you and your partner have fun.
You can develop over time the best parts of chasity as well as any level of kink that you desire. Just communicate with each other to find your best place.
My Madame was as Vanilla as you can be. She has awakened and is finding her on way as we progress. Communicate and find your on place and things that work for your relationship. Don't worry about anything or anyone else.
I think my wife’s idea of vanilla has changed. At first holding the key to my cage was pretty out there. Her getting off with the wand while my only participation was to caress her, was crazy. Now, I don’t think she gives either of those activities a second thought. Like “duhh! of course I hold the key to his chastity device, and yes I use the wand while he gets nothing, how else am I supposed to cum?!” Vanilla I suppose is relative to what you are used to.
My wife wouldnt be here as she is more proficient in another language that i am not too familiar with.. she treads along flr n male chastity mainly from her communication with her best female friend.. Or even if she does explore here.. not sure if she will be put off by the shear number of males exploring porny ideas…
I don't think the importance of this could be overstated. A deep, abiding trust is one of, if not the most, comforting feeling.