Our foray into chastity.

Sounds similar to how I respond when something is bothering me. I tend to go quiet and stop communicating. I'm working on it but my wife hates when I do that, rightfully so. My guess is something might be bothering him and it's probably worth talking to him about. Just my two cents. Good luck, hoping you both get back to what makes you both happy!

 

You need a Bull honey

 

I know, you have to find one first, right?

 

I echo what Pasta said, something must be bothering him. My recommendation is to take the direct approach and just flat out ask him "Is something bothering you?". Communication is key regardless of chastity.

 

Ok, he's in pain and not feeling the horny thing of being in chastity for you.

 

Yep, hard to be horny when there is true pain down there. Sometimes I have a sore that is causing that and I am barely aware of it (the pain can sneak in).

Takes a bit to get the right sizing as you can tell by the many posts on CM (and whole section dedicated to it). I would recommend holding back on the anti-pullout until you figure the right sized/shape ring, gap, tube, etc. Then decide for one of the custom options (which usually go back to a PA) after you have sorted out the "easier" stuff with cheap cages.

But you have some good data points to start and lots of advice here...

 

I’m have been using a Vice for a little over a week. The anti pull out is so uncomfortable, it’s something I don’t think I will use and I don’t see why I would need to.

 

The trick is for him to feel that he doesn't want to pull out. I can, but don't. It would be cheating. Let's be honest, if he really wants out, there is nothing you could do physically to stop it. Chastity is 99% in the mind

 

Miss Brand,
How is your hubby feeling today?
Jennifer

 

take it off before he goes to sleep, at least for a while

 

I echo this completely. I know some people get obsessed about "security" but in my opinion you shouldn't worry about security until he gives you a reason to. Like Jah, I could probably pull out of my cage if I wanted to, but the truth is, I've never even tried even out of curiosity because, apart from anything else, it might spoil some of the magic. I asked for this, so why would I cheat it. Now, having said that, if you come to learn that he has been pulling out, then you might need to up your game, and pullout spikes would only be the start, other options include a PA piercing or even a full belt.

 

With the morning wood, in an HTv4 Nano, it is intense sometimes, but that's half the fun, right? Trouble is.....I lay there feeling really horny and nice, but don't want to wake my wife. Eventually you just want to go back to sleep. I have to go sit on the loo and concentrate for a minute, then can pee through the hard-on. Then I can push the ring tight against my pubis to help it go down and relax and go to sleep. If he wakes you, fidgeting, instruct him to go and pee. He's in a bit of a trance state confusing the horn with the need to pee. If it's morning and you are up, it's a good time to edge him in the cage, if that's your thing. Full balls and bladder really make things intense. Or send him to make coffee, if you don't want to play.

 

Yeah! You really don’t need the pull out. Well unless you are making someone do chastity that really wants to get out

 

I respectfully disagree. I have tried wearing the vice without the anti-pullout at work and the tube comes unseated from the base ring. This is however my experience so you’re experiencing to be different.

 

Sometimes its confusing that you could be brandon and carla at the same thing.. im not sure to offer what advice to who…