Need some help! Any advice, I cant lose my Wife

I appreciate this, I feel like it likely is that simple. Simple is never simple though. My issues are personal and have more to do with me then her. Thank you for your input!

 

Maybe, maybe not. You say its in severe danger, but I'm not so sure. I think she just wants me to meet certain expectations. The thing is we are here now, and there is no really going back. As I have said before in this thread earlier, that a lot of my initial insecurities in the relationship, were derived I think from my constant overthinking. I started this thread with real concerns, fear I would be abandoned. I think we are for now in a better place. We have finally talked things out, I needed somewhere to vent and get things off my chest. I appreciate all that have taken not and given advice. I have a lot to learn about being a sub. Its not as Hot and bothering as I might have thought it would have been. Though I defiantly enjoy being submissive. When I posted this thread I was in a moment of desperation, the advice I need now is more on how to deal with my angst and struggles. People who are experienced in being submissive and given themselves to there dominant. I need help and encouragement on how to act. I asked her if me becoming more submissive has turned her off. She told me it didn't, she just expects me to not make expectations for her, to just listen and let it flow. My resolve in being submissive has not waivered and I really want this relationship to thrive. Give me advice on how to make that happen ya know? Maybe others can read this all and learn something like me. I never thought I needed to let things out, but sitting her typing things out has already strongly helped me resolve some issues in myself. I respect your thought process.

 

I don't know its kind of hit or miss on that aspect for different people. Feeling like a "lesser being" actually makes me feel oddly good. Perhaps to each their own.

 

Thank you for your more lax response. We talked about getting a kink friendly therapist.

 

Thought I would update everyone just for some closure.
Things with the Queen have gotten a lot better. I took advice from those that have told me to simply submit to her. She is not really all that much of a sadist. As of right now we are doing well. I have completely decided to get over my jealousy issues. She has been much more responsive to me and my feelings when I am not overly annoying to her. Things I need to control are my sensitive emotions, that can be perhaps a bit much.
As far as the kids, I think some on here have misunderstood. She didn't invite him over without my consent, and he also brought his kids as a play date. They where not involved in anything. So as I had said before in the thread, they are perfectly fine.
I said before as well that the day I started this Thread was a particularly a day that I was having more a less an anxiety attack. I have gotten over the jealous issues for now. Hopefully I can keep them at bay.
At this time my wife and I are doing well. Marriage is such a wild battle sometimes! I wanted to thank you all for the advice, even the ones that tried to convince me that it was already over! I am happy to say that it is not. That I believe we are on a journey and it will get better before it gets worse. (well maybe not for me and the cage!)
I have not cheated my chastity in about a week, and after our last fight that started this thread. I honestly scared to piss her off. Some might say that is as it should be.