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    #26 nrbill, Jun 29, 2020
    I got started by my ex-Mistress when I was separated from my wife for about 3 years. I had always liked the idea of wearing a chastity device, and my ex-Mistress did a wonderful job of taking me right to the edge of my tolerance.

    Eventually, my wife and I got back together, and my wife didn't have any affection for the cage at all. She didn't want to hear about it and called me a pervert just like I described in my previous post. So far, she hasn't decided it could do her some good, even though my ex used it to stop my bad masturbation habit, which was way out of control. My wife benefits from her training me with the cage, she just doesn't realize how much better I am now than I was before the cage. I still have some hope. We'll have to wait and see if she decides to use it on me.

    I know my wife would like to have me wear it when she has me eat her pussy, so that she can just roll over and go to sleep without having to worry about reciprocating any sexual favors for me. I would be just fine with that.
     
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    #27 Anonoman, Jul 3, 2020
    Update - tonight is two weeks since my wife took the key :+1:. I was also allowed to pleasure her last night too which was the first sexual contact since - very arousing :D
    I did ask if she’d like to unlock me but was told she didn’t! :rolleyes:
    As we’re on holiday in two weeks with the children, so I’ll defiantly be unlocked then.
    I’m going to make a big effort to be patient ‘till then. When we’re back I’ll ask my wife if she’s like to take the key back again :)
     
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    #28 iambad, Jul 3, 2020
    Congrats! You are well on the way to regrets! Keeping you locked is a good sign of things to come...
     
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    #29 Anonoman, Jul 3, 2020
    The funny thing is, I wouldn’t have ‘got into’ chastity if my wife and I had frequent sex... but as we don’t (not for the last 6+ years) I’d turned to video porn more and more and became desensitised to ‘normal’ arousal. This type of porn has become so available as well now it’s not difficult view. :( When it was a VGA cathode ray tube monitor, even a low res photo of a woman wearing latex or a down jacket would get me hard! Not long ago I could find myself skipping though countless HD videos of all sorts and just not even getting a twitch.
    I’ve never told my wife this.
     
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    #30 Disciplined Boyfriend, Jul 3, 2020
    Sure? She may have taken you at your word to be locked. And anyway she won't be wanting to make noisy sex when the kids are around. Welcome to the 2 months club
     
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    #31 Anonoman, Jul 18, 2020
    We’re due to leave in two days so last night I asked if I’d get unlocked the night before... I got told no and that it would probably be in the morning right before we go! o_O

    I think that is the first bit of verbal ‘teasing’ I’ve ever had!
     
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    #32 Deniedmitch, Jul 18, 2020
    Really happy to hear how this is ori8for you, we had a bit of a bumpy start initially too, from something that at first she seemed totally on board with she seemed to lose interest, but with some lovely words of advice from people here, I let her be and she has now embraced this further, it's by no means plain sailing but I'm just into my third 2 week stretch. Hope your progress continues!
     
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    #33 piet00, Jul 18, 2020
    As someone said here in CM, which I found very smart and bringing the problem to the point:
    We (men) who live in chastity will think about this 99% of the time and feel the mood change. Your KH will not.

    As others have say, the magic is to keep calm and let it develop.
    What really changed it for us, was that I said, that this is so exciting for me and that I know that I might talk to much about this and therefore suggest to setup some rules:
    1) it's her rules
    2) it's her speed
    3) I will write her once a week

    This was the start of our contract which has helped us a lot. I can communicate and give her extra attention writing her and she can make her own mind.
    I also stated clearly that I don't write her to get an answer, but just to open myself up to her.

    I think this will help in the beginning, because talking to much about it and pushing (even asking for "when do I get uncaged") is not good.
     
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    #34 Anonoman, Jul 20, 2020
    The last night before we left came and went - my wife apparently wasn’t in the mood... :rolleyes:
    So expecting to be unlocked in the morning, I went to sleep. The morning came and went and we hit the road with the car packed.
    So now, here I am on a camping holiday still locked up :eek:
     
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    #35 Drews, Jul 20, 2020
    As has been said before, be careful what you wish for. I never dreamed I would be locked 24/7. Best advice is just deal with it and treat her special. Do not complain and let her see things as normal. It sounds like she is getting comfortable having you locked. Do not ruin it for her by being needy or even discussing you are locked.
     
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    #36 Anonoman, Aug 3, 2020
    Well we got back and took a day or two to recover - camping with young children isn’t much of a ‘holiday’ :rolleyes:

    I then sent my wife this note:

    I know we talked about not ‘playing’ anymore a while ago... Then I asked you to just keep the key for me and I was very happy you said you would until we went on holiday.
    Now that we’re back, would you keep the key again for me please?
    If so, please will you think how long you wish to set as the minimum duration? May I only ask that, during this, the only time you permit me to be unlocked is when it pleases you or if privacy would be an issue?
    It would really mean a lot to me for you to take this... I’ve been over using and undervaluing it for a long time. It was becoming not special anymore. By you keeping the key, not only does it stop me taking it for granted, but it actually then becomes the exception and not even the norm. If you only allow access as you want for your pleasure, if I satisfy you with my hands and/or toys, it becomes just another toy for you to chose between.
    From what you asked me the other week, may I just also take this opportunity to say the following... Please don’t ever stop us doing something because you think it will make me frustrated not to be let out, instead, if you would like to do something for me, please do the exact opposite! I defiantly don’t mean for chastity to be the absence of sex for us, only that you deny me orgasms unless specifically to give you pleasure. As I said earlier, this may even mean that if I satisfy you in others ways, you don’t even need to unlock me... Chastity, for me, then, is the looking forward to if and hopefully when, you do! This bring a whole new level of excitement for me which I greatly enjoy as well     :)

    My wife then said that we would have another three weeks as this would take us to to another camping trip. This time I’m pretty sure I’ll be unlocked as it’s to the beach so there will be plenty of getting changed etc.

    It’s now four weeks since we last had PIV sex and I’ve been allowed to pleasure my wife twice in this time.
     
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