Well it’s been just a little over a week and half. Since I’ve been locked up. Longest time I’ve ever had locked up. At the point of absolute desperation. Too many new emotions to deal with at once. So anxious and frustrated. today I had a mild melt down. The wife was not to happy with me. Think I may have blew my chance of getting out of this thing for a while now .
Welcome to the world of the roller coaster called Chastity It takes a while to get these things ironed out. Just remember your wife doesn't know how you are feeling, and if you tell her then she will only get the shits and feel you are putting her her under pressure. Many of us make this mistake. You are not alone. If you throw a fit and she gives in you will regret it big time. My mantra is...."good things come to those that wait ....PATIENTLY" it will come but you just have to wait PATIENTLY and have TRUST it will come. You have gone a week and a half...just take one day at a time... Strangely I find a good paddling helps my frustration....and Mistress is happy to comply with THAT.
Is easy to become frustrated!!! My wife only locks me up,for short periods. But teases me and uses edgeing to make it so much worse! Do you have a release date?
Another angle, if your meltdown is a genuine issue of you not coping mentally with chastity, then you need to let her know. As with any kink, safe, sane and consensual is the rule.
Few nights ago, gf/kh said we should set up a sex date.... Hasnt brought it up again since. Last release was vday. I dont bring it up. My only role is to make her happy. I have never been more happy having less sex than i ever have. Im a better partner when locked up.
I know it might sound crazy to you, especially at this point, but what helps me is having no release date. Nothing to get anxious about when there is no expectations. I know that if I ask to be unlocked, the answer is an automatic no.... Even if she was planning on letting me out 5 minutes later. I ask=no. The end. Hope it helps in some way. Good luck.
I agree totally with this! You should see if your key holder will milk you, or allow you anal stimulation, beware though, as soon as my madam saw I could achieve a climax without penile stimulation, she saw no reason to have to unlock me!
Well I wouldn't fret over it. Having a meltdown is one way to show her how effective putting you in chastity can be. Because she'll soon realize she doesn't have to put up with that behavior. I think you already realize it was a mistake. Tell her that, apologize, and let her know you still want to do this. Not sure what all you do for her, but offer to do something she really likes as a penance for your actions. Could be something personal, like a massage, or something more utilitarian like polishing her shoes. Whatever might show her how much you love her and want to continue down this path. Good luck and enjoy life.
I made it clear to her that not asking her for sex does not mean that I am not interested, in the contrary I am always available and looking forward to be her sex toy when she finds appropriate, it is only out of respect to her needs. Less sex (much less) yet better, much better and intimate!
I once took a hissy fit/whined like an annoying bitch when I had a massive dose of the hangover horn. I was let out but was assured that if I ever went on like that again it wouldn't be going on again.
@Levi’s have you been allowed to satisfy her during this time? My GF jas made ot clear that I am allowed to ask this, or even initiate (unless she says "no" ). It helps my frustration a ton and so I thank her profusely and she gets happy reassurance that the cage is doing its magic.