I was wondering (as you do) about who actually decided on chastity in other relationships. In our case I discovered chastity and got so turned on I just had to see if Mrs Chaste would be willing to lock me up and tease and deny me. Well we know the answer to that one. I get the impression its generally "the bloke" who asks "the Mrs". But is it very common for it to be the other way around? Apart from the chastity and some occasional (not very strict) bondage Mrs Chaste and myself are fairly vanilla I suppose! That doesn't mean we don't take my chastity seriously, I don't get unlocked unless it is absolutely necessary and then I'm relocked as soon as possible. What about if you didn't want to do chastity anymore, would you be freed? In my case Mrs Chaste would probably release me eventually but very reluctantly and not without trying to convince me otherwise! What about women in chastity, who's idea was it in your case. I love reading about all the different chastity lifestyles on CM. There are so many different and interesting ways to " do" chastity. The vanilla world don't know what they are missing!!! Still if everyone was into chastity then it wouldn't be half as much fun or would it? Its interesting how things evolve over time as well. Although it started as my idea Mrs Chaste has become the one in control of our sex life now and I have to make her cum whilst not cumming myself. And her whole persona on the sex front is very much more dominant than it was! Who knows where that will lead in years to come!
Me! I have had a facination for as long as I can remember! My ex wife was so dominant and we were never intimate! (Should never of married). She I am certain had other partners as sex was not on the menu for us! She often would masturbate with me next to her! Found that sexy and would imagine some guy was giving her one! I met my lovely second wife 11 years ago and kept my desires from her until she dicovered my cheap cage! At first she was upset as she felt I betrayed her and that we had no secrets! I told her I felt silly and explained how I wanted her to lock me up and that I masturbated far too often! She agreed after a long talk to try and has never looked back!
Me. Stumbled across it in some porn, I found it a turn on. Told the Mrs about it and she said fuck no. I wouldn't say I badgered her but I mentioned it two or three times over a year. She agreed to try it and enjoyed the benefits. We've used a device on and off over the last 18 months or so, normally for a month or two at a time. I've now gotten a PA and will be getting a custom device for longer lock ups. We aren't in an FLR, I don't think either of us would be happy with it. 'Im her partner, not a doormat, still there are certainly times when I'm sure having that control has come in handy.
Me! Well, can't a girl decide what's best for her sub and herself. We were cuckolding first and then chastity, then denial. Felt like the natural progression to me.
In beginning it was all me, but now @Thatguyontheinternet appreciates it enough to keep on going with it.
Six months ago chastity was not even on my radar. I had not even fantasized about it. I happened to stumble onto it by accident. I found a video with a Domme talking about it, and was turned on by it. I bought my first device a few days later, a cheap China plastic knockoff from Amazon. I liked the feeling, but hated the cheap device. I upgraded immediately with a BON4Msmall, which I have been locked in 24/7 for the past 154 days. I also ordered a Queen's Keep from Mature Metal, which I have yet to try on, since I am locked into the BON. Maybe some day my KH will let me switch devices
I decided, bought a cage and presented it to Ian. Before it went on we did have a long chat, when I asked what he wanted me to do for him in exchange. His ideas turned me on, so some of his fantasies about me are now reality too. Overall, a win win! Jane X
It was my idea, she had no idea they existed outside of olden times. How much she enjoys this and how invested she is in this evolved as we both discovered the reality of chastity.
Definitely me, but I was surprised that Jane didn't reject the idea. Having said that, she hasn't exactly embraced it either. I think that a combination of being very vanilla, her getting all the benefits in advance of chastity, and concerns about somehow that she's hurting me, leaves all of the momentum coming from me.
Queens Keep is an excellent device. I've spent most of the last 4 years in mine. Can wear it for months without Mrs Chaste unlocking me.
It's nice to see the lady's sometimes decide for their other halves. I hope that you are getting ALL the benefits offered by a Chaste male! Mrs Chaste enjoys it so much that she wishes she'd known about chastity when we got married! That would have been amazing, consummating our marriage and then locked up straight after! Well I hope that would have been that way, but I'll never know!
I brought physical chastity to the table and My pet quickly melted into the idea. It made perfect sense as a progression in our D/s relationship. We started slow, but both seem to be sinking into the life quite rapidly... we're both seeing countless benefits so far. I share the same wish. Even though we're already married, this cock cage came on before wedding rings... and a big part of Me is a-okay with that. Seems more fitting, anyway.
it was HER idea, been locked on and off for the last 6 years (mostly on). She doesn't want me to have any sexual release and very few stiffys. I have accepted it but if she wanted to let me be free again I would love it
I brought it to my GF but she is running with it. I let her know what I like and she decides whether she likes it as well. It is quite an amazing journey all in all
It was my KH. She was looking at some toy sites and she emailed me some photos of the cages she was looking at. I sent back too her that they looked like a bit of fun and forgot about them. A couple weeks later she had me tied up and blindfolded. She rubbed lube on my cock and balls and giggled. She slipped on what felt like a cock ring made of steel oh and lifted the blindfold. She held the cage up in front of me and slid it over my cock. She fitted the lock and whispered "only chance to back off, if you say nothing I click the lock shut and who knows when I will let you out". I grinned and heard the click. We have been practicing chastity ever since. This has led to forced femming and there are now other areas we plan to explore beyond that.