Seeking help to be a right cuckoldress

he shudnt shout at you that's very bad,

 

In any relationship there needs to be give and take so that the needs of both parties are fulfilled.

Everyone deserves respect.

 

To do it in real life is harder than it is in fantasy so no doubt your hubby is emotionally and hormonally all over the place. Maybe you should take a firm stance.

 

What does he want afterwards

 

The cuckold main desire is to have you do just that you will put him in ecstasy

 

He will be in emotional heaven

 

If you would like I could help you with other ideas

 

Sounds like he is trying to top from the bottom. You need to assert your control now or you are headed down a wrong path.

 

What you need to get your head around is the fact that every time you feel guilty about an action, just remember he gets horny/excited by it. So you need to think about what makes you "excited" and remember ok, this is different, but he really gets off on it. If you find it hard to say no, then work on situations like a safe deposit box in a bank, leaving the key at work, or using the postal service to mail it to yourself to allow you the ability to say I would love to ... but I don't have the key ....

 

I agree with the comment that he is topping from bottom, and it looks like you are very new to this, so my advice is
1) don't do any thing you are not comfortable with ,
2) take things slow and easy, if need be just say no, after all he is your sub and what you want to do is always right,
3) play along in fantasy, you could say for example go down on me while I watch a Big cock video, and then let him know how much more you would be satisfied by a bigger cock. and a fitter man,
4) always be aware of the STD's out there in the big bad world, your health should be your number 1 priority.
5) communicate and discuss but don't let it get into an argument, as hurtful things are said in the heat of the moment,
6) compromise to a level that suits you both,

hope this helps you ,

 

i am glad this was of help. I will ask MistressAli (my Mistress) if i can answer PM from you and the n let you know.

 

Very astute. You are learning.

 

Just a comment on 'the rules' of what subs do and what dommes do.
There are no rules. There is only what works for you and your partner.

What often works is that the guy suggests chastity, FLR, Cuckolding, whatever and the woman gets involved as much or as little as she is prepared to in order to please him. So if the guy introduced it, no matter if she ends up making the rules in the relationship, he is leading. If it's happening because he wants it, then he is leading. There's not actually any problem with that of course. whether she's stomping on his balls (because he likes it) or if she's telling him he's a worthless shrivel-dicked worm (because he likes it), or if he's doing all the housework, cooking, shopping, and giving her control of his bank account - because he likes to.

The point at which she is leading and not him is when she starts developing ideas of her own and enacting them without him actively wanting it.

So don't get too hung up on what you or other people think you should be doing, but do read, ask, compare, try out, invent, create, re-try etc, until you find what works for you. Probably that will be both of you, a bit you and a bit him. Dont worry about it if he's giving you ideas. Maybe he just has more ideas!

It's supposed to be fun right?

 

Just take it slowly and work up to it. I presume that you're happy to be cuckolding him....in which case, just telling him that you're off to see a man who makes you very happy, that makes you cum like a train (whatever) is going to make your hub happy. The more you work it, the happier he will be. I think as long as you make room for closeness and affection then you'll be fine. As soon as there's a wobble that lasts for longer than a day, then you need to slow down and do some talking together.

There are always wobbles on this path, but there are wobbles in any relationship.

 

I just wanted to kick this whole 'topping from the bottom' thing into shape a bit. People make a song and dance about it, but here is always an element of topping from the bottom. A top is only a top because there is a bottom being a bottom, and the top can only top with the bottoms consent - so who has the power?* The answer is that it's shared, negotiated, swapped at different times according to the needs of the unit.

Above all - keep pushing your boundaries, and his, in a comfortable way. I'm sure you'll both have a great time! (Do tell us about it!)