Indefinate period of chastity

My wife and I are fairly new to chastity, starting only a few months ago. We started off slow a few days at a time until we got to two weeks of denial. Today my wife said that she no longer felt any guilt or pity for not giving me an orgasm and liked things the way they were when I did not have one. She further stated that she no longer wanted to give me an orgasm on some arbitrary future date because that is what I wanted. She said that often she did not want to put up with my mood after an orgasm for the next 3-4 days and then wait another 4 or 5 days for me to get to the point where I was willing to do anything she wanted and no longer argumentative.

There was also talk about how many times she made me cum when she was not in the mood and how it is her turn now to have orgasms when I did not. She also told me that since she always had her orgasm first because after I had one, I would go through the motions with her, she too lost interest after a few orgasms and just wanted to relax and not have to work on me. What ended up happening is that pointed out that our Valentine's Day agreement only specified no orgasms for me until that day but did not say I would have one. Darn, I did not consider that. Anyway, she left it at denying me an orgasm for whatever period of time she wanted to and that would usually be if I was very obedient and did not piss her off and when it would contribute to her orgasm, not just because I wanted one or she felt obligated to give me one.

I do not know how long she intends to deny me and now my eager anticipation of Valentine's Day is ruined. Yet, I do not know if she will let me have an orgasm of if I am going to have to wait until she feels that she needs me to cum for her enjoyment. In the past, she did take pity on me which is why we had the no orgasm agreement in place. However, I did not anticipate what would happen after that. I assumed and assumed wrong. I am finding it easier to go without an orgasm for longer and longer periods of time and most times I am not wearing a CD. Only when she goes out twice a week. I find that as long as I do not watch anything stimulating, I am fine. Today I got an erection simply by watching some woman's Olympic event where they wore tight pants that outlined their well toned butts. That is something that would never happen if I was having orgasms regularly. I told my wife that I felt like a teen again, getting hard with the slightest of stimulation.

So now I am worrying about what is going to happen. We always had a day picked for my orgasm. Now there is no pre-determined day and the only thing she said she would do, is have sex with me twice a week on the days she wanted an orgasm so that I could enjoy sharing her pleasure and give her an opportunity to tease me, which she loves to do. I have no idea if she will be like she used to be and feel sorry for me and let me cum or if there is a new dynamic happening here. Time will tell I guess. Who else is kept in chastity for an indefinite period of time which could be short term or long term without you knowing?

 

I had a sex dream last night about my wife. I had my usual one week panic attack and told my wife that I cannot sleep and need sex. She got mad at me and said no. It was an interesting day. She took me shopping and bought $200 worth of lingerie to tease me with. She made me carry the bags. Then it was off to food shop. Usually I just tag along but this time she was barking orders for me to fetch the items she wanted to buy.

When we got home she told me to unload the car and bring all the grocery bags in. After that she modeled the lingerie she bought but told me not to touch. She really has embraced teasing and denial in a big way.

My wife is bisexual and always preferred sex with a woman. Our sex life has mostly been BDSM with me as the sub. 90% of my orgasms have been by hand. I was always whipped and humiliated by her and her lovers. She does not have a lover now for the first time in a long time and it seems that she is openly putting down men and letting me know that she would marry a woman if I died before her. I know that she loves me but she is not that much into male/female sex. It was because of this that I looked for a kink that would fit into our relationship. Chastity and formal acknowledgement of our wife led marriage has freed her from her sense of obligation to provide me with the almost weekly orgasms that she used to provide me.

Luckily this plays into my submissive desires but while I will miss my weekly orgasms, the constant teasing, treating me as her slave, and humiliation, is actually better. The fact that due to some medications I take that force me to take Viagra to get an erection, has provided her with a new source of humiliation. At $25 a pill, I cannot afford to take them regularly. I mostly waste them because I have to guess when she may make me cum because if I cannot get hard, she will not let medium because I should be showing her how much she arouses me. However when I get erect she uses that as an excuse to tease me without release. I know what game she is playing and when I was allowed to masturbate, it was not a problem. Now it is and I hope she finds a new girlfriend soon to divert he attention from tormenting me.

Just now she asked me if I was hungry because it is past dinner time. I said yes and she said maybe later because she wants to take a nap. Things are changing very rapidly now that she is free to do what she pleases without the fear of losing me and my obedience to her m

 

It would be do much more easy if she did not tease me so much. I do go into a mindset where I do not think about sex after a few days. When she teases me all I can do is beg for release.

 

Just finished in the bedroom. She was tired from shopping all day so she gave herself a really intense orgasm, play with me briefly and stopped as soon as she felt me respond as best as I could. I told her that she was under no obligation to make me cum on Valentines Day as she had previously said. I told her to just make me cum when she wanted me to. Her reply was that could be a very long time. We talked some more. I mentioned that she is getting moe dominant each day. She said she was aware of that and she liked the control over me. Then she said that if it was up yo her, I would never cum but I said that it would be good to give me an orgasm or two each month to make sure the plumbing was working and clean out the pipes. She said, one or two days, with a disapproving look, and I said that was just a suggestion and she should do as she wants.

This is beginning to read like a fantasy story. I wish it was. I stopped using my CB6000s last week. I am doing fine on the honor system. Many years of not disobeying my Mistress had taught me well. Plus with the medication I am on, it would take a very long time to get a little hard and cum. All I end up doing is edging myself.

 

I forgot to mention that she had me wear panties. She does that more often now that she has no lover. She closes her eyes, uses her vibrator and rubs me through the panties. I have to stay quiet so I do not spoil her thinking about her last g/f. Her most intense orgasms are when she pretends she is with another woman. So intense that she just wants to sleep. I only get to give her oral about once every two months if I beg enough. I am fine with that because we rarely had vanilla sex in our marriage after a certain point. After leaving her g/f, she just wanted vanilla sex like she got from her lovers. It did not work out for us.

 

Do not get me wrong, she is very interested in giving me pleasure any way that I want as she has proved over and over again. She is a real trooper when it comes to trying new things, even if they are not mainstream kinks or fetishes. She has participated in things that many men dream of. She did some things that she was not interested in personally, just to please me a few times.

Right now she is only doing what I told her would please me. Few men would stay married to a woman who imprisoned them and refused to let them have an orgasm. We are all in chastity because we want to be. It was our decision or we at least accepted it because we did not mind. The only difference is the level of chastity play each of us enjoys.

My wife has shared her girlfriends with me for most of our marriage. Only a few were not into threesomes. Some men wish for at least one threesome before they die. I had enough so that one on one sex became kinky. I always wanted to show my appreciation for that and even set her up with another guy since I was her first and only. The trooper that she is, she gave it a try but did not like it so we never did it again. She has always been free to have sex with whoever she wanted to but she always chose a woman. Now I get to show my appreciation for the past 43 years by letting her tease and deny me for as long as she wants. I am not complaining at all.

 

No problem. Just explaining why I can accept it. If I do not like anything we do, I have the option to cease our current lifestyle and return to our old vanilla and boring sex life. My wife does want to take on another lover unless I die before her and I do miss our old life a lot. This current lifestyle will have to do.

 

I am in my sixties too and today woke up with an erection for the first time in a very long time. I think chastity also plays into the drop in testosterone that some of us experience and lessening of our desire or ability for sex. Like you, our teasing and denial play, which has a chastity element due to the denial part, has made us more intimate and increased the number of 'date nights'. Without either of us having the pressure to have an orgasm ,when perhaps we are not feeling like it or using medications that interfere with sex, we spend more time just touching and kissing. It is interesting how better you can be when there is no pressure or expectation of having an orgasm to please your partner.

My wife is having more orgasms now than she did 10 years ago though. I am having much less. As my wife told me just yesterday, when we had a talk about how far we are going take my chastity at the end of the current two week period (indefinitely), she said that she went many years giving me orgasms when she was not in the mood and allowing me to have sex with her girlfriends without her present when I needed sex more than she did. I owe her big time for the great sex life she constructed for most of our marriage. Having less orgasms now is a very small price to pay.

 

Update: My wife gave in to the heat of the moment and gave made me cum after two weeks. I tried to stop her and she did but later on after her third orgasm she was hell bent on making me cum and she did. Since then, chastity was put on hold as I told her that I did not want to go through two weeks to get to a place where I was comfortable with not having an orgasm, only to have to do it again, over and over. So we started up again with the goal of me training for her 8 weeks of post surgery recovery when she would be out of action. I was supposed to not have an orgasm until right before she went in for surgery, sometime in mid or late April.

Within a few days it was evident that neither of us was happy about long term chastity. My wife call our sex, artificial sex because I did not have an orgasm. We have usually had simultaneous or at least mutual orgasms. My orgasm usually triggers hers or vice versa. I could see that my wife was losing interest because she enjoys making me have orgasms just as much as I enjoy doing the same for her. I thought about how I would feel if my wife refused to let me make her cum for a long period of time. I would not like it either. This morning, she did not even tell me to lock it up when she went to get her hair done. She always made sure I was locked up when she went out every time before.

I sent her a text asking if she was still interested in Chastity. She replied that she was but only for the short term. We went back and forth and then switched to email so we could say more. We finally reached a compromise that works for both of us and gives each what they like. The game plan now is for her to tease me all week as usual but she will give me an orgasm, full or ruined, maybe two, at her discretion, every week. I will once again lock up when she is not around and the days she tells me that we are having a date night. We kept our date night ritual which is that right before I join her in bed I have to shower and shave both my beard and pubic area. It makes it feel like I am getting ready to go on a date.

The biggest issue was that while my wife wanted to give me at least one orgasm a week, she did not like the bitchy mood I was in afterwards. I told her that I would be aware of that and try to control it. I also accepted that if she felt I was bitchy she could administer domestic discipline which usually was limited to not performing my chores to her satisfaction. She also wanted to add that I get one warning to adjust my attitude or else she will add another week to my chastity period. Whether she really would or not, I do not want to chance it. She had read on some website that after the guy has his orgasm it is important to put him right back into a submissive frame of mind. To that end, she wants to lock it up right after I have my orgasm. She also read that it is important to make me eat my cum but we could not come to a consensus on that one because I do not like to do that unless I am horny. For now we left it as a punishment should the other methods fail to put me in line.

So once again, our chastity play has changed. That is why we do not do contracts for anything. We are in a wife led marriage and it too changes often to accommodate our needs or what life throws our way. Even though we play sex games that involve an exchange of power, it is never without agreeing to the basics so both of our needs and wants are met. Does not matter who tops from the bottom, middle or top, as long as we end up with something we both want.

 

Indefinite is turning out to be once a week with lots of mind games to keep me guessing. It is working for us.