I know I have mentioned it before and it sounds ridiculous but she makes me eat green vegetables. I can't stand them and start gagging immediately from them. The smell of them makes me want to vomit.
1) reducing privileges ( erections,teasing,edges) for certain time 2) sending me to a Pro Domme to be tortured according to her anger
This. 100%. Being given the silent treatment by my Mistress and basically having my condition completely ignored tends to snap me into a more compliant state of mind. Any mention of being in chastity or any complaining/whining results in being ignored even longer until I wise up. Other effective punishments I've experienced involved having my lockup period extended and being assigned a ton of errands and extra chores.
My GF locked me in Irish-8 cuffs and left them on all night. Couldnt sleep and was so claustrophobic. I wasn't happy at all but when we talked it over she impressed upon me that it can't be all fun and games. I think it got through my thick skull.
Mildly irritated she leaves me locked with no attention. Severely irritated, hands me the key to unlock and doesn't want it back.
I think a 'real' punishment is something that you truly dislike or fear or resist doing. It could be a spanking, public humiliation, extended chastity without relief, requiring you to make contact with Alpha males or more stringent Dommes, or just leaving you alone, with minimal contact or conversations. I think it all depends on the mood, desires, and strength of your Domme or Dom. Whatever they choose, it will need to be done or endured despite how you personally feel about it.
We don't do punishment. If there's a serious problem then we talk about it and try to correct. Real punishment (whether it be physical or mental) will not correct an underlying issue. I think it's an avoidance of understanding and tackling the real problems you might have with how the relationship is set up. A main source of problems in a D/s relationship is often one or both of the parties not really understanding one another. We have a weekly meeting to openly discuss any issues we might have and my Mistress will bring up any areas she'd like me to focus on for the upcoming week. Boring, I know, but it's realistic and actually gets results. We've solved a lot of problems by just talking honestly and taking corrective action. Because even though we have opposite roles within the dynamic, we're both equally responsible for our success. It's not a case of somethings not working therefore punish the sub. If that is your dynamic, each to their own, but I cannot see that being very healthy. Obviously funishment play is a separate thing. Offering up pain/play/humiliation for minor infractions that don't really matter/exist can be all in good fun for all involved.
I certainly understand the role of communication and assume any real punishment is preceded, followed, or both by a thorough airing of the issues. Sometimes, I can assume that may be more painful than any physical punishment. Again, relationships can all vary, and finding what works for you is most important.
OK, so my question to those who support being punished is; do you feel you need to be hurt or sanctioned in some way to improve your behaviour? Do you feel like as the sub, you won't do as you're told unless you've had it beaten into you? Do you think it's mostly your fault if something isn't working? The reason I ask is because if I fail to do something, it isn't because I was showing disobedience or a lack of respect, there's normally a very good reason for it. And if I don't feel like the reason has been heard or understood then the punishment is not solving the problem and it's making me feel very unfairly treated for an outcome that isn't 100% in my control. If it was blatant disobedience or lack of respect, I would imagine my Mistress would be calling to re-evaluate whether or not we should be in a relationship. So again, in that scenario, punishment would not solve the problem.
She would do things I do not enjoy and can be quite imaginative or really severe canings/paddles/whipping. yes I need this punishment every 2-3 months although knowing I've made a mistake or done something wrong is usualy worse than physical punishment
LOL your lucky, I've been given dog and cat food, cat food was worse as well as other things perhaps better not to mention.
Do you end up staying locked while being ignored? I do. She references as my "punishment" and leaves me locked and forgot. Sometimes for a couple weeks. Those can be rough. Its usually because I'm whining about being horny and want to be released... so her punishment to get me to stop is to stop doing anything at all. It's... effective.