I was introduced to chastity a year ago and since then always wanted to try it out. I recently purchased a steel lock which I have been comfortably wearing for past 4 days (I use ChastiKey app for time-keeping). However, the problem is instead of feeling it as a punishment, I am getting pleasure out of it. How will that change? Will the cage work its magic over-time?
As a self locker I don’t consider my lock up a punishment but more a way to curb my appetite for self gratification. I also, and most importantly like the heightened awareness I have towards my wife. IDK what you’re punishing yourself from but if you’re enjoying it than it’s not a punishment
And yes, for the most part I do enjoy it and the feeling hasn’t subsided yet and I’m locked 24/7 for about 3 1/2 weeks
Does it matter if it's pleasure or punishment? The key question is: do you think it's the right thing to do? If so, do it.
Thanks for your opinions. Let me put it in other words. I still feel there's something lacking, how can it be more spiced up? How do others in self-chastity tease themselves? I hope I'm making sense here!
Teasing yourself seems like tickling yourself: something that doesn't actually work since you're the one doing it. If you want to strain and ache while self locking, just watch porn or whatever you'd do to get off when you aren't locked. You could also repeatedly edge yourself and lock back up when you feel your will failing. The issue with that is you can end up wasting a lot of time and your will will eventually fail.
Pleasure and punishment or in other words pleasure and pain can so easily be switched they can easily be the same thing. Sometimes it’s a pleasure to be in pain or punished. The punishment with wearing a cage can take awhile until the excitement ( pleasure ) wears off. When you Really want the cage Off and you can’t take it off, this is a good indication that it’s starting to be punishment. Than after a week or two of the cage still not being removed that punishment starts to become exceptance. To go from being free to 24/7 lockup is aprocess that takes time and different feelings and emotions come into play. It can be an exciting ride if you can hold on to the roller coaster.
I think that you answered your own question when you said that something is still missing and then described "self-locking". It appears to me that you need another person, preferably a powerful woman to lock you up and exercise control over you. It is quite fulfilling, I can promise you!