I have been trying to explain how things work for me sexually. After several unsuccessful attempts, I think I might have a way that will work. Please let me know if this makes sense. For me, sex is a lot like eating. If I am hungry, I can eat just to end the hunger...playing with myself is filling that hunger in an easy way. It is not a great or tasty meal...but it satisfys the hunger. The better sex is, the better of a meal it is. Chastity keeps me from eating. If I can see and smell a great meal, it makes me even more hungry. It does not take long until I would do just about anything to satisfy that hunger. However, if I don't get to see or smell the food, eventually the hunger goes away. The idea is to keep that hunger high enough to keep me off balance. I have heard others talking about that post-orgasm moment. For me, this is a lot like being so hungry that you would do just about anything. At that point, just about anything sounds good. After having satisfied the hunger, some of those dishes don't sound nearly as good. I hope that makes some sense.