The One (ok, two or three) keys to a happy and rewarding Female Led D/s relationship

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  1. Melody
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    i am seeking insight from the Women in the main but the men also can chime in if so led as to

    What is the one, or two or three critical keys to a successful Female Led D/s relationship given that all are in agreement that the Female is the Leader and that She is to be served and that all know that this is what T/they desire and are motivated and desirous of joy and happiness from the relationship.

    Thank Y/you in advance for Y/your considered replies.

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    melody :butterfly:
     
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    1. Communication :fighting0094:
    2. Patience :indifferent0028:
    3. Remembering that fantasy and real-life are two very different things! :sex_porn:
     
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    Thank You Mistress Watchful - i struggle with 1 and 2 in that i often want (need) more communication than Master does and i need to learn patience and understand that this is a Cherry Leopard Led Relationship.

    i do not struggle nor do W/we as a couple struggle in O/our relationship in living in the real world and not a fantastical one. i am very service oriented and my language of love (see Dr. Gary Chapman's book) is acts of service and that is real world focused - doing that which needs to be done every day - the cleaning, the laundry, the being there supportively when those times come after a bad day - these are how i live love.

    For examples of living real life Master found Mistress Helen and linda's blog and W/we met via the She Makes the Rules website which is dedicated to FLR's in the real world with Relationship being a serious matter.

    i have in the past read my fair share of sissy fantasy stories, etc. but have not in some time. Each day real life keeps getting better and better and that is where all my energies are focused being a loving partner and sissy submissive to Cherry Leopard.

    Thank You.

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    melody
     
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    Respectful Chaste by choice

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    A strong foundation

    Hi Melody;

    I agree with Mistress Watchful. Relationships are best built on strong foundations. No matter how compatible you may be sexually or D/s wise, without a foundation for day to day life it is not enough to enjoy this type of play.


    However, given that one is in a solid relationship, I think the following rules can be very important to sustaining a man's submission to a Lady. (They work quite well on me :)

    1. She controls my orgasms always; both through denial as well as her gifts of orgasms and weekly milkings.
    2. Having to consume my cum always puts me right back into subspace.
    3. I wear panties exclusively as it is a good reminder of how real this play has become :)


    Respectful :cat:
     
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    Dear respectful:

    you are absolutely correct about the day to day life dynamic. i aspire to connect on the mental, emotional, spiritual and physical planes with Cherry Leopard in a loving relationship that most surely is D/s, physical and Cherry Leopard Led.

    Cherry Leopard does control my orgasms always. i am currently not milked, it is a practice i believe that She adopt soon (this may just be me hoping)

    i am Cherry Leopard's cum slut.

    i wear panties only, sit to pee, wear make-up daily,etc. all as directed by Cherry Leopard to help in my growth as Her TG sissy slave partner.

    i am very grateful to Master and try to show that in every way that i can.

    Thanks and hugs,
    melody
     
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