I have been reading occasionally about Tantric teachings. In a very real sense, the tease and denial of chastity embody elements of Tantra. I am no expert, and much of the Tantra-s writings are so obscure that they are impossible to understand without being interpreted (by a Guru). Tantric teaching has a lot to say about sensuality without male ejaculation. One website I stumbled upon has had me reading for hours - this site is the most intriguing Tantra site I have ever clicked through: http://sivasakti.com/ Browse the site - it is a little daunting to find a good place to start, so just click on an interesting word on the left hand edge... Please let me know if there are other similar sites that you think I should browse!