Hi everyone. I've been lurking for a while but thought I should intro properly. After a few trial runs, i (an otherwise muscular, sporty, very successful alpha male) am locked in a holy trainer 24/7 with the expectation it will be a permanent thing. My wife is the key holder and she is very much enjoying her new found control of me. It started, oddly enough, with 50 shades of grey. She enjoyed the books and found them a turn on. However when we tried a little role play it didn't really do much for her. We've since figured out it's her who likes to be in control and the dominant party giving out the spankings etc. We also share a fetish for her have sex with other men. It's just fantasy talk but it gets both of us off and is a potent fanstasy for us. It was through looking at cuckold porn that I became aware of chastity play and the concept of FLR. The more I delved into it the more turned on I was by the dynamic. The trouble was how do I bring it up. My wife/mistress is vanilla in her tastes but wonderful open minded to hearing new ideas and acting upon many. I read Giles English's vanilla domme guide for men and used its suggestions to approach the subject. In the space of just over a month we've gone from me requesting her to consider it to her fully embracing her new role. It's now been 7 days since I last came (a lifetime record for me I think) but we have had sex several times in this period where she has cum but denied me. Last night I tried topping from the bottom (unintentionally - I just really wanted to cum) and she very gentle told me tough - lock yourself up. And then promptly went to sleep (it was 1am). So I am sat here in the HT2 and she is unlikely to let me do anything to at least Tuesday as she is focused on getting a significant piece of work completed by her Tuesday deadline. Anything before that is unlikely. A few people here have said be careful what you wish for......boy are they right. I am actually deeply happy and frustrated in equal measure. And she loves seeing it. Which make me love her all the more!! Anyways. Good to meet you all.
Hello @Vanillaish ! You and your wife sound a lot like hubby and myslef. We got into cageing my husband becuase I don't want him masturbating all the time. It's been just over 2months that we have been exploring chastity. We have not locked 24/7 yet. But will be as soon as we get something custom for him. His is very very alpha. So it's fun for me to be in controll. Maybe suggest to your wife coming on the site as well?
Congrats. Wait until she sees how much nicer it is when you are denied, and then wants to extend it longer and longer. Then you really have a problem.
I've just been reading some of your story. Yes, quite similar indeed. She doesn't miss the sub side though as it never suited her. It's just taken a while to realise how much she likes control. She is unlikely to join as she is both working (part time) and studying (part time) and is responsible for ferrying the kids around (I leave for work at 6.30am and return at 8pm). This would be way down the priority list for a few years. I am a big lad down there too (particularly girth) but I can just about squeeze into the largest sizes for the Holy Trainer using the stocking method. As long as I am not hard (or trying to be!) it's very comfortable. If aroused it does pinch a bit.
It's joyful to read how worlds open up. I also have a little history of suggesting little experiments and harvesting one or the other surprise. Welcome c-w