Just wanted to say Hello. Will get around to an avatar when I get some inspiration ! I've been around the block a few times with relationships & thought I'd come across everything over the years - until my boyfriend & I exchanged fantasies a few months back. I was shocked when his all centred around being locked long term in a chastity device. Initially I couldn't see myself doing it at all but, after researching it, it was a quote I found from a Mistress on another website that convinced me to have a go - "Once he knew that he could only get his sexual gratification from me - and then only when I felt like it - he was all over me like a rash - running me baths, giving me massages and helping with the household chores and the longer I denied him the better he got". Put like that it would have been churlish not to play out his fantasy for him ! We kicked off with a CB3K but he has found the abstinence pretty difficult & it soon became clear that we were going to need a steel one. The Neosteel belt has only recently arrived and getting the fit right has meant that we've been swapping between the two a bit - but I think we are close now to him wearing the Neosteel permanently although he seems surprisingly reticent about this - considering that this was all his fantasy. I'm not sure whether that's because he knows that it is only really with the steel belt that he properly hands over control - he could after all break out of the CB3K any time. I've only had 'proper' penetrative sex twice in 13 weeks but yet I'm having the most fulfilled time of my life - and it is true that the longer he is denied the better he is ! I'm not sure really if the experience is exciting or disappointing for him - at times he seems to display both. I don't think he uses this site but I know he uses another one - I've seen it on the browser - but I can't track down any forum posts as I would love to know what he really thinks. I'm still developing as a keyholder too - learning from other more experienced keyholders. I'd done brief dominant role plays previously but never assumed the totally dominant position and, although I'm enjoying it, it does take some getting used to. To think that 3 months ago I nearly didn't do it.