Getting my wife to lock my dick

[Cagedhubbysecret]

I'm a married guy.
I love my wife. But she not too keen on putting me in chastity anymore. We tried it before and both kind of enjoyed it. She pegged me a few times and I loved it. Then not too sure what happened and she did not want to do it anymore.
We still have sex vanilla style and it's great, but I want to reverse the roles again and have her lock me up and peg me.
So how could I get her back into it and try again?
Any advice would be great.

 

[Rand]

We just started again after 5 years without any chastity or much kink at all, so it is definitively possible.
Be honest with her about what you want. Also, ask yourself what does she gains from it.

 

[MissyB]

Talk about it for sure, and see what my be holding her back. It does things for you, but she needs to find it beneficial too. Good luck.

 

[Cagedhubbysecret]

Thanks for the advice. Will try and talk to her about it and see where it goes.

 

[MissyB]

You're lucky to have a wife who will consider it, so keep that in mind, whether she is interested at this point or not.

 

[Cagedhubbysecret]

I will be patient with her and talk to her about my desires of being caged and pegged. Thank you.

 

[MsPamela]

I'm a married guy.
I love my wife. But she not too keen on putting me in chastity anymore. We tried it before and both kind of enjoyed it. She pegged me a few times and I loved it. Then not too sure what happened and she did not want to do it anymore.
We still have sex vanilla style and it's great, but I want to reverse the roles again and have her lock me up and peg me.
So how could I get her back into it and try again?
Any advice would be great.

Good communication is essential. Keep in mind that she may not have enjoyed it as much as you think she did. Or perhaps over time other concerns arose that make the prospect less palatable now. If you're in a position where the two of you can talk without attack or judgement, then be honest and open about how much you enjoyed it. Listen to her feelings and concerns. Be flexible about finding a compromise.

 

[Mandrake_74]

Yes-just be patient- that's the best advice. Be understanding of her needs.

 

[Cagedhubbysecret]

An exciting update. My wife and I had a little 2 night getaway in a mountain cabin. We had a few drinks, and she said she wanted to play. I made sure to take care of her needs first, she put a vibrating toy in my ass while I went down on her. After she had an orgasm, I asked if she would peg me, and she was happy to do it. I said to her that I wish I had the cock cage on while doing it. And she was very open to it again. Her only concern is that we have not had kids yet, which we plan to have someday, but she is worried that caging me will affect my ability to have kids.
But at least I know now she is willing to cage me again at some point!!

 

[lcesky]

The cage didn't affect me.
To the contrary.
Keeping chaste and only giving to my wife probably is better for fertility.

 

[Cagedhubbysecret]

The cage didn't affect me.
To the contrary.
Keeping chaste and only giving to my wife probably is better for fertility.

How long did you wear the cage at a time?

 

[sonhee]

she is worried that caging me will affect my ability to have kids.

I can personally confirm that's not the case. My youngest one was created with only 1 time of sex (on a day which she thought was outside the fertile window), that's how virile I am when in chastity lol

 

[Rand]

An exciting update. My wife and I had a little 2 night getaway in a mountain cabin. We had a few drinks, and she said she wanted to play. I made sure to take care of her needs first, she put a vibrating toy in my ass while I went down on her. After she had an orgasm, I asked if she would peg me, and she was happy to do it. I said to her that I wish I had the cock cage on while doing it. And she was very open to it again. Her only concern is that we have not had kids yet, which we plan to have someday, but she is worried that caging me will affect my ability to have kids.
But at least I know now she is willing to cage me again at some point!!

It has nothing to do with fertility.
As long as your wife unlock you at the right time, you're fine.

 

[Cagedhubbysecret]

I can personally confirm that's not the case. My youngest one was created with only 1 time of sex (on a day which she thought was outside the fertile window), that's how virile I am when in chastity lol

Thank you. We still want to have kids and not take any risks that I lose my ability to. So that answers that

 

[JaySaysYes]

Thank you. We still want to have kids and not take any risks that I lose my ability to. So that answers that

A anecdotal study of one isn't of any value.

Unless you cut of the blood supply to your balls then it's unlikely you'll lose the ability, but if you are genuinely concerned then you should consult a medical professional, to put both your minds at ease.

 

[Cagedhubbysecret]

Thank you for that sound advice. Really appreciate the community and the support

 

[Jessica Alexander]

I’d drop the pegging request for now and focus just on her holding the key. Don’t push denial and anything else. She simply holds the key unless you are going to have sex. I suspect you have overwhelmed her with more than just chastity.

 

[Cagedhubbysecret]

She is already into pegging me. So the chastity is just adding to the kink

 

[Mr_anonymous]

Agree with this you're overwhelming her. If she does cage you then you have to let her lead. Not write a contract saying you'll peg me weekly for example. You can't use her to play out your fantasies or she'll feel exactly that, used.

 

[Cagedhubbysecret]

Agree with this you're overwhelming her. If she does cage you then you have to let her lead. Not write a contract saying you'll peg me weekly for example. You can't use her to play out your fantasies or she'll feel exactly that, used.

I understand. And it is not my intention to make her feel used. I am going to treat her like my queen as I always have. Only with more benefits for her, and I get to enjoy myself sometimes too. At her will of course

 

[Mr_anonymous]

I understand. And it is not my intention to make her feel used. I am going to treat her like my queen as I always have. Only with more benefits for her, and I get to enjoy myself sometimes too. At her will of course

One thing you'll have to understand. Chasity by itself is very boring. It's you caged doing stuff to make her life easier. If you're lucky you get some attention here and there but it'll never be enough. Think less porn and more house husband.

 

[Cagedhubbysecret]

One thing you'll have to understand. Chasity by itself is very boring. It's you caged doing stuff to make her life easier. If you're lucky you get some attention here and there but it'll never be enough. Think less porn and more house husband.

To be honest, that is what I am looking for. Yes I have my own selfish interests in it. But I completely understand that its at her will. And I am happy with that. I want that motivation of being caged to do more for her, love her harder, and just all round satisfy her every need.
I also want to get away from the porn I turn to for pleasure. So I know that chastity will certainly help me. And I can focus that sexual energy to fulfill her needs and desires.

 

[Jay Sub]

She might have had regrets about the pegging. Leave your kinks out of it and focus on waiting for her to release you when she wants. Whether you have to do it without the cage or not. It doesn't belong to you. If you can't leave it alone, appeal to her better judgement and hope she holds the key.

I’d drop the pegging request for now and focus just on her holding the key. Don’t push denial and anything else. She simply holds the key unless you are going to have sex. I suspect you have overwhelmed her with more than just chastity.