I'm Katy, a CD-gurl. I have many kinks being chastity actually the one that I like most but being also the one I could not explore as much yet. It's of course more interesting to do chastity with your wife or partner, but as I have no one to do it with I never tried it really seriously. I'm serious about exploring chastity now so I decided to register here and start learning about it and, of course, connecting with people. I have developed many very great friendships around BDSM, but no one within the chastity kink yet. At the moment I'm mostly interested in how other guys manage chastity on their own. Of course I would love to have a keyholder or, even better, a Mistress but I'm also realistic about how difficult it is to find someone to do this with. I decided that I don't want to wait any longer, so I will start exploring chastity on my own. I couldn't find any specific thread or discussion around self managed chastity yet. I would appreciate any help pointing me in the right direction within the forum. Thanks!! Hugs, Katy
Hi Katy Welcome to the Mansion. I too am a x-dresser who is also into chastity. I started self locking because I could not get the wife interested at first. She is now my keyholder. But back to what you could do so you don't have access to the key. Many of those who self lock put their keys in the mail and post it to themselves. Before the wife got involved I use to hide the keys in the lining of suitcase, as she traveled a lot for her job. She would be gone anywhere from 3 days to two weeks. There is also a site called EmlaLock. You can learn more from the different threads here at the Mansion. Have fun
@xcitedsisssy @jemima Hello girls! Thanks for the welcome messages! Thanks @xcitedsisssy for sharing your experience!! I tried to get my wife interested in chastity many years ago without success. Now, same as you, I thought about trying to do self locking, maybe without even telling her. I'm curious about how my mood and attention to her my change and if she would notice some "improvements".
My wife was them same when I first took an interest in chastity. She didn't want anything to do with it. Although she was curious. Through a lot of talk and communication she slowly began to take the bull by the horns so to say. Now I don't think she would go back. She has enjoyed the xtra attention she receives and the control she has over me.
yes it does do that Katy but you has to have the cage on some weeks before it happen and it make you want to be with Mistress all the time and when She aint there you miss Her lots and lots and want to do all you can to make Her happy.
@xcitedsisssy it's very interesting what you say, specially her change in attitude towards chastity from "didn't want anything to do with it" to "Now I don't think she would go back". I'm planning to get started without her knowing. @jemima can't wait to experience how it feels to be a couple of weeks in the cage and the way my attention turns towards her. @rhodry04 thanks!